Just want a quiet life

66Mustang

I live at home with my parents and dog and we all get on really well; no arguments, my parents have the odd trivial disagreement, but that’s it.

We have close family members who live nearby who are always causing trouble, getting angry, having arguments etc. They always seem to drag my parents into their problems. This can be in the form of being nasty to my parents or demanding money or practical/emotional support (which my parents will never say “no” to as they feel an obligation).

All I want is a quiet life - I don’t need to be rich or live an exciting life with lots of holidays - I just want to be left alone to live my simple life.

Can anyone relate or does anyone ever feel the same?

If you live alone or in a small family and wish you had a larger family, be careful what you wish for!

I’m looking forward to hearing peoples responses.

WelshBlue

As the saying goes - you can choose your friends but not your family.

It sounds like some in yours are taking advantage of your parents good nature, sort of reminds me of the time I was physically able and would drop doing things to help people - but strangely when I called in a favour they were all too busy

Sadly some are lacking in common decency/ respect ? 

66Mustang

Yep @WelshBlue we know that saying all too well. Also another one, when concerning certain family members, "I love them but I don't like them".

Common decency is not too common these days sadly!

Sandy_123

Its never plain sailing with families sometimes

OverlyAnxious

I think the grass is always greener on the other side.  I doubt anyone is totally content in life.

Personally I find other people hard work and just want to be left alone, but I am incredibly lonely and want to be more socially involved (if that's the right phrase), which seems to be a major contradiction!

bg844

Agreed @66Mustang, I do keep myself to myself though and very rarely see my family as much as I used to bar events, not in a bad way and I love them all but sometimes it is for the best especially when they expect money etc all the time. You know my PM is open should you wish to chat more about it there whenever.

Cyhyraeth

When I started approaching adulthood the main pastime evolved into going to clubs and drinking, which because of my disability I was and am unable to do without things going wrong very quickly. This resulted in my limited friend group becoming virtually non-existent.

I've lived alone for 20 years, since I moved out of my parents house; and have always been fiercely independent. I can count on one hand the amount of friends i've had since then, who have all disappeared for much the same reasons. 
Between the age of 21 and 38 I was unemployed for a total of 3 months. Over the past roughly 10 years my mobility has taken an ever increasing dive, and I was laid off from my last job which I had been at for 11 years, 5 years ago now (not because of my health).
 
Since then i've sat in my house and haven't been further than 2 feet from my front door since October last year when I went for a hospital appointment. The only people I have to rely on are my dad and brother.  My dad will ring me roughly once every 6 weeks, and be quite short tempered  and ask why i'm calling if i ring him, but will ultimately help me (which I barely ever ask for anyway); and my brother will only come to see me/help if I pay him.  This leaves me quite anxious at times as to what will become of me when my dad passes on.

Apologies for the long, barely relevant post, the topic just awoke it in my brain!