Any help advice . Struggling so much with this

Natz40

Hi all . Is there anyone from the UK ? 

I tried too have my tooth extracted on Friday , twice and I couldn’t do it .
I was traumatised. Please be aware my dentist is fantastic and I feel happy I’ve finally found someone who understands my disability and needs .

I was completely numb but still felt things and I was terrified I couldn’t carry on .
 Now I did go too another dentist previously and they we’re supposed too refer me too the dental hospital.
They did my referral and hardly wrote enough too support it and they kept rejecting it 😭.
My new dentist has witnessed my reaction and said not even sedation will be suitable and we agreed I need to be asleep.

im aware I will be waiting a long time , I do have an infection which is being treated but I know it will keep coming back until it’s out but I will not go through what I did on Friday again.
I keep crying because am scared so much they will reject me again .
I don’t have much support too help me get this referral excepted .
Im afraid of getting sepsis and I’m so afraid that I will be told too just keep trying.
I am autistic, I am hypersensitive and I have trauma and no one seems too care at all 

Is there anyone from the UK ( Manchester) who has been through or going through the same ?
also has anyone been put asleep too have teeth out .

thanks for reading 
Natalie 

Natz40

Excuse me I don’t appreciate your response . I won’t be having it done awake due too trauma.
why should I ? 

Natz40

Try again though why would I try again ? No I am asking if it’s something they will be able too do for me 

OverlyAnxious

I have the same problem regarding dentists (as well as hospitals etc) for similar reasons - hypersensitivity, very low pain tolerance, severe anxiety and previous traumatic events.  I've needed dental treatment for several years now but can't find anywhere that could put enough 'reasonable adjustments' in place for me. 

I'm interested to know why sedation wouldn't work though?  I thought gas sedation would put you to sleep?  That's the only way I'll be able to get through dental treatment, as well as the other op's that I'm in need of.  Though I just can't see any way I could even get to the hospital now, it's a huge cause of daily stress for me so I can understand why it's affecting you so much.

Natz40

Thanks for understanding. I don’t even know what sedation is I was told I’d be awake and still feel it ? 

It’s so hard isn’t it ? 

I just wish I was listened too from the start regarding a proper referral.
just feel so lost 

poppy123456

Natz40 said:

I don’t even know what sedation is I was told I’d be awake and still feel it ? 

It’s when you’re given medication to make you feel sleepy and relaxed. There’s 2 different ways to do this and you won’t remember a single thing once it’s over. See link for more information https://www.bupa.co.uk/dental/dental-care/services/nervous-patients

Natz40

Thank you . Just hope am not waiting for long time too have a referral because am so scared 

Sandy_123

Hi @Natz40 I do hope you get seen soon by the hospital. 
@Purrrrrrr I hope your not waiting too long either to be seen. 

OverlyAnxious

Natz40 said:

Thanks for understanding. I don’t even know what sedation is I was told I’d be awake and still feel it ? 

It’s so hard isn’t it ? 

I just wish I was listened too from the start regarding a proper referral.
just feel so lost 

After reading Poppy's link, it looks like I was given incorrect information about sedation.   Meaning all the effort I put in trying to get to the only dental clinic that offered gas sedation in my area (3 failed appointments!) was a complete waste of both my time and theirs.

It seems like only the hospital can put you to sleep for operations.

It's also sad to see the lack of understanding on that Bupa page.  The suggested alternative for a fear of needles is to use a numbing gel - and then a needle!  Totally misunderstanding that it isn't purely about the feeling of it.  Just the sight of a needle triggers uncontrollable shaking and tics for me...and I just get told to 'calm down' or 'sit still'...as if it's a choice I'm making!

Natz40

Sorry too hear that so could you not do it with sedation either ?
Bupa are the ones who did me referral incorrectly which is why I’m having too go through the process again and I’m thinking of taking it further but I don’t know where I’d start 

OverlyAnxious

Natz40 said:

Sorry too hear that so could you not do it with sedation either ?
Bupa are the ones who did me referral incorrectly which is why I’m having too go through the process again and I’m thinking of taking it further but I don’t know where I’d start 

No, sedation wouldn't be suitable for me either after reading that.  I'd have to be put to sleep.  And it would have to be gas due to the issue with needles.  But as I said above, I can't even get to a hospital or dentist now so there's no way forward for me at the moment.  The attempts I made were back in 2019/20.

Mine was with an NHS dentist and then an NHS dental clinic, I don't have any experience with Bupa, but it looks like they're all just as bad regarding phobia reactions and hypersensitivity etc.