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My girlfriend is making life impossible

frood
frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
I have a lot of thing wrong with me depression
Diabetes high blood pressure apparently I am a hypercondrac  according to her we are on universal and she spend all of it so I got a job not sure if I can cope with, she is upset I'm working she is upset I can't afford to take her out she suggested I. Cut my wrists I can't. Do this anymore 

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  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 44,019 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @frood sorry to read about your situation. 
    You have to do what's right for you. If your health is getting in the way of your work, then maybe it's not wise to work. I'm presuming you have spoke to your girlfriend about the difficulties you have. 
    Definitely don't cut your wrists. I'm shocked she would suggest that. If your not happy any more with your girlfriend, maybe a separation to give you time to clear things in your mind.
  • Alex_Scope
    Alex_Scope Posts: 7,562 Scope online community team
    Hello again @frood I'm so sorry to hear about this, we'd like to support you as much as we can, so we'll be sending you an email to check in soon. Let us know if it doesn't come through. 

    Have you been able to get in touch with any crisis lines or your GP/Mental Health team today? 

    I'd strongly encourage you to call 999 if you feel unsafe or are in danger. 

    Let us know if we can help support you, and we'll do what we can. 
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  • frood
    frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
    Thankyou for this I have know one to talk too but it may come to that I am upping my tablets to cope and see how it goes
    Kin Regards frood
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 44,019 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @frood speak to your dr before changing your meds dosage as they make you more poorly 
  • frood
    frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
  • Beaver79
    Beaver79 Community member, Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 15,840 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @frood I am so sorry you are having difficulties with your girlfriend. You must think of yourself. Please speak to your GP he is there to help you. Take care.
  • WelshBlue
    WelshBlue Community member Posts: 703 Pioneering
    edited June 2023
    @frood ... I'm really sorry to read this mate.  
    Please reach out to help others have pointed you towards.

    There is also https://mankind.org.uk/ << ManKind Iniative.  They deal with domestic violence, which you are going through.  If only mentally from your post ... but still as destructive

    My first wife was very much like this, plus the jealousy ... I couldn't even talk to a female shop worker without getting attacked when we got home.  Cars smashed up etc

    Please reach out now for help for you both before it escalates. 
    You are worth a lot more than being treated like this.  Especially as from another post of yours, that you are getting out there to provide for you both and a better life.

    Please don't suffer in silence and keep reaching out here ... my PM is always open if you need to sound off

    Look after yourself buddy
  • frood
    frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,979 Disability Gamechanger
    You can always talk to us @frood. We are all here for you, even if you do feel alone. It sounds like you are having a really difficult time at the moment. Would anything, in particular, help you to feel like things are more manageable at the moment? Please don't hesitate to let us know if there's anything we can do to help, even if that is just listening to you  :)
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  • MPowell_1991
    MPowell_1991 Community member Posts: 83 Courageous
    Hi @frood, firstly I want you to know that you're not alone, I know many other members have echoed this statement which is encouraging to see.

    Please don't resort to cutting your wrists. Please get access to the help and support that you need, which Scope is happy to support with. 

    Relationships are difficult and require a lot of work and this can be mentally quite draining. I know this from my own experiences. 

    Changing your medication requirements will put you potentially in danger - please seek advice from your doctor first before doing this. 

    I sincerely hope that you are getting some support. 
  • frood
    frood Community member Posts: 12 Listener
    Thank you it really helps to know I have heartwarming answers
    I am sorting it out I quit the job but started a new one with the support of mencap and it is going ok at the moment she is still horrid but I'm determined to get myself back on track
    Again thank you and everyone who gave me supportive messages I hope to return the favour in supporting when I'm properly back on track 
    Kind Regards
  • Hannah_Scope
    Hannah_Scope Posts: 7,316 Disability Gamechanger
    @frood I hope the community can continue to be a support. Please don't hesitate to reach out if you need us. I hope everything goes well with mencap supporting and please keep us updated :) 
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