Marriage

princesslelly

Please don't judge me, my fiance lives over 100 miles from me, so far it has worked, we want to get married but he cannot relocate due to work commitments he is 2 years from retiring, i cannot relocate to him as he is lodging in a house and i cannot live there plus my children are here, he has no ties at all, no family, we can wait but obviously there is the worry that something might happen to him, {we never know} my reason for posting is if we get married but still continue to live apart will he have to support me as he obviously has bills rent to pay where he lives, and could not run 2 homes i am on benefits esa pip due to disability [ i asked on another site and was bombarded with you are a benefit cheat this is not the case, its more a case of being his next of kin if something should happen to him and him being mine i am just after advice please about if i can marry but still claim benefits as we will live apart or do i need to wait or is there another option tia   

poppy123456

Getting married will not affect any of your benefits. What may affect them is living together. 

princesslelly

Thank you for your reply, we do see each other on a weekend but i run my home and he runs his place, i have checked that i am doing nothing wrong in seeing him for 2 nights  once he retires then he will move here due to my family being here, once again thank you Poppy 

Hannah_Scope

@princesslelly I'm so sorry you had such an awful experience on the other forum. I hope the community can be a more welcoming and supportive place for you  

Congratulations on wanting to get married! Please keep us updated, and I wish you all the best on your wedding day

I see Poppy has answered your query. Please don't hesitate to reach out if you have any more  

2oldcodgers

poppy123456 said:

Getting married will not affect any of your benefits. What may affect them is living together. 

...... and how the DWP will interpret your marriage situation.
What I can say is that many husbands work either away in the UK or even abroad for months/years on end. It doesn't mean to say that they are less committed to the marriage but they in the main would be treated as husband and wife for both tax and welfare cases.

You could contact the DWP and get a decision in principle as to what would happen if you became married.

poppy123456

2oldcodgers said:

poppy123456 said:

Getting married will not affect any of your benefits. What may affect them is living together. 

...... and how the DWP will interpret your marriage situation.
What I can say is that many husbands work either away in the UK or even abroad for months/years on end. It doesn't mean to say that they are less committed to the marriage but they in the main would be treated as husband and wife for both tax and welfare cases.

You could contact the DWP and get a decision in principle as to what would happen if you became married.

I disagree. Just because a couple are married it doesn’t mean they are living together as man and wife for benefits purposes. 

2oldcodgers

poppy123456 said:

I disagree. Just because a couple are married it doesn’t mean they are living together as man and wife for benefits purposes. 

So if I take your word for it, you can be married but be treated as two single people for benefit purposes if you don't actually live with each other?
Well my dear brother-in-law is being shafted as he works when he can in the UK and claims UC as a married man but his wife is a resident and lives and works in Ethiopia. She has never been to the UK nor left her home country.

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poppy123456

2oldcodgers said:

poppy123456 said:

I disagree. Just because a couple are married it doesn’t mean they are living together as man and wife for benefits purposes. 

So if I take your word for it, you can be married but be treated as two single people for benefit purposes if you don't actually live with each other?
Well my dear brother-in-law is being shafted as he works when he can in the UK and claims UC as a married man but his wife is a resident and lives and works in Ethiopia. She has never been to the UK nor left her home country.

Being married doesn't mean you're living together as a married couple (LTAMC). How can it be possible for your BiL to claim UC with his wife if she's not even living in the UK? lol 

When you claim UC as a couple, you both need to start the claim individually and then one of you will receive a linking code to join both claims together. 

How on earth was it possible for his wife to do this and confirm identity when not even living in the UK? It wouldn't physically be possible for her to claim UC anyway.

I'm sorry but what you're saying here really makes no sense at all.

Here's a link regarding LTAMC https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/661551/adme4.pdf

It's the same as 2 people who are currently not married but LTAMC and claim UC as a couple. That couple split up but still live under the same roof but it is possible for each individual person to then claim as single people, if they can prove they are not LTAMC. Infact, i've very recently helped and advised 2 people i know i real life do exactly this. Then went on to claim UC successfully as single people.

princesslelly

It is not for benefit purposes my partner works and lives over 100 miles from me, he claims no benefits but rents a place so could not afford to work and run his home and mine as he lives with his landlord so I cannot go there, we can wait to get married but he has no children no family and concerned about me  being his next of kin hence the marriage

poppy123456

princesslelly said:

It is not for benefit purposes my partner works and lives over 100 miles from me, he claims no benefits but rents a place so could not afford to work and run his home and mine as he lives with his landlord so I cannot go there, we can wait to get married but he has no children no family and concerned about me  being his next of kin hence the marriage

Getting married will not affect any means tested benefits you maybe claiming, if you're not living together. Living together will affect them, whether you're married or not.