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Could I Get Evicted

oldngrumpy

Before I start explaining my situe, I have memory problems from a effect of Brain Injury

In the last six weeks I have had a complete electrical rewire.

No dust sheets were used. It was a mess. Three days to clean up

And for nine days I have had a complete bathroom refit to the bungalow I live in.

A bit of background information. I used to get on with my Housing Association.
But they as well as certain undesirable neighbours have put a stop to that.

I could explain but it takes ages.

On Thursday.a woman from Housing Association came to inspect the rewire. I was offered some Crown Paint Decorating vouchers to compensate for decorating bill.

Then we went outside and just casually talked about the area, she's a local girl.

Now I cannot remember how it kicked off but I had a raging argument with the woman from the Housing Association.

I did explain in some very, very colourful language on some of the behaviours I have had to put up with the neighbours.

But also some incompetent beings at the H. A.

Reflecting back on what I can remember I would say It was on the verge of bullying.

But thirty years of frustration came out, and yes in these years, but especially recently my Mental Health has massively gone down hill.

Anyhow she left and I was trying to piece together what I had said.

I used again colourful words to describe certain Area Housing Managers from the past. I just would like to add it's these that are the decision makers that have ruined my Mental Health.

Could the Housing Association evict me for literally giving this woman the hair dryer treatment. I gave her a severe rollicking.

Before I finish can I explain.. I am never like this. Never. It's just that thirty years of frustration came out.

Advice off folks appreciated.

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Jimm_Alumni

Hi @oldngrumpy, have you tried reaching out to her personally to apologise? I would reach out to the Housing Association to ask if you can apologise in person, or if they are not comfortable with that then apologising via a letter or email.

Sometimes we can lose control of our emotions, but as you have done here you've realised that the frustration you had built up was taken out on someone who did not deserve it. It's good that you've realised this and you can take steps to try and make that right.

I am not very knowledgeable in the area regarding evictions. So I cannot answer regarding eviction processes but that would likely be a very long process. I would contact Get help from Shelter - Shelter England who specialise in helping those with housing issues.

Also, have you reached out to your GP if you are concerned about how you were on that day?

newborn

The advice above seems perfect. You have explained yourself to us. The sooner the better to explain it to the Housing Association. With a huge no holds barred apology to the person you have (probably) offended. The lack of restraint was your illness talking, not you.

But the advice about seeing the doctor is important. The Housing Ass needs to know you have taken steps to see if you need medication, so they don't worry you might be a risk to yourself or to your neighburs or to their staff. You know you are not. We know it. Your doctor will know it, even if just to reassure you he gives you something to settle your nerves. But for all they know, you might be making a habit of losing your temper. They don't know you only do it once every thirty years!

oldngrumpy

Jimm_Scope said:

Hi @oldngrumpy, have you tried reaching out to her personally to apologise? I would reach out to the Housing Association to ask if you can apologise in person, or if they are not comfortable with that then apologising via a letter or email.

Sometimes we can lose control of our emotions, but as you have done here you've realised that the frustration you had built up was taken out on someone who did not deserve it. It's good that you've realised this and you can take steps to try and make that right.

I am not very knowledgeable in the area regarding evictions. So I cannot answer regarding eviction processes but that would likely be a very long process. I would contact Get help from Shelter - Shelter England who specialise in helping those with housing issues.

Also, have you reached out to your GP if you are concerned about how you were on that day?

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Thanking you for your time answering this.
This morning I visited the library. Typed out an apology,, printed this, and took it personally to the offices of H.A.
I gave it to a member of staff who has hopefully forwarded the letter to appropriate person.

oldngrumpy

woodbine said:

The advice above is sound, I would only recommend that you make the apology in writing explaining as you have to us so well.
I doubt tbh its a cause for eviction.

Thanking you for your time answering this.

This morning I visited the library. Typed out an apology,, printed this, and took it personally to the offices of H.A.

I gave it to a member of staff who has hopefully forwarded the letter to appropriate person.

oldngrumpy

Jimm_Scope said:

Hi @oldngrumpy, have you tried reaching out to her personally to apologise? I would reach out to the Housing Association to ask if you can apologise in person, or if they are not comfortable with that then apologising via a letter or email.

Sometimes we can lose control of our emotions, but as you have done here you've realised that the frustration you had built up was taken out on someone who did not deserve it. It's good that you've realised this and you can take steps to try and make that right.

I am not very knowledgeable in the area regarding evictions. So I cannot answer regarding eviction processes but that would likely be a very long process. I would contact Get help from Shelter - Shelter England who specialise in helping those with housing issues.

Also, have you reached out to your GP if you are concerned about how you were on that day?

Thanking you for your time answering this.

This morning I visited the library. Typed out an apology,, printed this, and took it personally to the offices of H.A.

I gave it to a member of staff who has hopefully forwarded the letter to appropriate person.

Jimm_Alumni

Your message seems to have duplicated but that is okay

I don't think you have to worry about eviction, the main concern is how the Housing Association may interact with you in the future if they think you might be aggressive. You've given a written apology which is an excellent first step. If you feel like the frustration may bubble over again to a place you cannot control it I highly recommend speaking to a GP about it, if the Housing Association asks you can say you are taking steps to ensure your illness won't do any of the talking as woodbine said. That would show you are taking responsibility.

It can be difficult when the frustration and stress build up within us. The stress also makes it harder to control our emotions, so it's like a double whammy of filling ourselves up with emotion while the container keeping those emotions inside weakens. The important thing, as has already been said, is you've realised this was wrong. Or at least directed at an entirely innocent person. You've taken steps to rectify that which shows how good of a person you are. Now you just need to think to yourself is this a situation that could happen again, and if so what steps can you take to prevent that?