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Wondering if you are a nice person

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66Mustang
66Mustang Community member Posts: 14,078 Disability Gamechanger

Does anyone else sometimes question whether they themselves are a nice person?

I try to be a decent person all of the time but sometimes wonder if I do or say or even think things that contradict this. Even if I don’t speak or act I wonder whether the way I think, or my views - even if unexpressed - mean I am not a nice person.

I don’t like to see innocent people suffering and I always try to help if I see they are in need and I am able to, whether that is a little money or emotional support or physical practical assistance. Also I can state I never intentionally upset anyone in my life, except as a child I admit to committing some bullying, which was however in response to being bullied myself.

I have my views but am mostly liberal, and am always open to other points of view and opposing opinions. I like interacting with all sorts of people, whether they are "different" due to their opinions, or their characteristics, I wouldn't want everyone to be the same.

People in real life say I am diplomatic and polite but often I will say something in real life and then think, could I have put that in a nicer way? I am better with the written word because there is time to think about what I am writing down and the ability to make changes before submitting.

I wonder if the fact that I have very very few friends and have never had a relationship suggests I am not a nice person? Or can this be safely put down to the fact that I have not gone out and about and mixed with people.

Does anyone else ever feel similar?

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  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 2,670 Disability Gamechanger
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    I can associate with what you have posted @66Mustang . Your doing just fine.  Your a very caring person with a big heart . One of the best . 
  • Beaver79
    Beaver79 Community member, Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 21,811 Disability Gamechanger
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    The trouble is @66Mustang we can sometimes say things that we mean one way and some one else interprets another way. I have always found you kind and helpful. Not everyone has lots of friends and how many do you need anyway. I would rather have one really good friend that I know I can rely on. 
  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 2,670 Disability Gamechanger
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  • woodbine
    woodbine Community member Posts: 11,802 Disability Gamechanger
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    I always hope I am helpful and as positive as I can be just as you are @66Mustang ,being a socialist I always try my best to see the good in people and for my money you are a good 'un.
    2024 The year of the general election...the time for change is coming 💡

  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community member Posts: 14,078 Disability Gamechanger
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    Thanks @Beaver79 I agree about having lots of friends, you are right. PS it's lovely to see you, I don't believe you have been on here for a while, apologies if I am wrong and simply missed your posts

    @woodbine thanks, that means a lot to me, I agree about seeing the best in people - maybe thinking that there are "nice" and "not nice" people is a bit black and white ... I guess the vast majority of the population are somewhere in the "grey" area, i.e. we all have our sins but most of us are decent?
  • Beaver79
    Beaver79 Community member, Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 21,811 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @66Mustang You are right I have not been on for a while but I am back now.
  • Lou67
    Lou67 Community member Posts: 7,612 Disability Gamechanger
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    @66Mustang
    Hi I love your new picture. And as for you as a person I think you are a lovely friendly compassionate kind person, just you keep being you as your great the way you are. 😊

    As for myself I really try to treat people as I like to be treated. For a lot of years I didn’t feel to good about myself due to an abusive relationship but I’m learning to realise I’m actually not to bad. And if I can help you I will.

    ❤️
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