How do I deal with my mother who limits my relationship and dating and changes bits of the rules?

Splatmate24

Every time that I try to express my feelings about that frustrated about her changing bits about dating rules. The bits that she has now are a moderate learning disability . I dislike most things that I like. I always had issues with my mum and she never let me go on my own and yep she also with me when it comes to dating to . I had always had trust adults with me if not with my mum. I dislike most mainstream dating apps and prefer disabled dating apps/websites. I dislike disabled dating sites/apps. I prefer some mainstream dating apps. I like the hunger games that had to go with Cinema with me and my younger sister. That I also don't have a good relationship with too . She doesn't like guys that I show her to and only liked one guy that was way too old for me and we met at social events for learning disability . My mum always has to be like this with me and I'm getting more annoyed when she changes bits about rules for dating and relationship . Talking doesn't help and expressing my feelings doesn't help and turns into argue . Accuse me of not flushing the toilet down stairs . I'm not been in toilet down stairs. I took a long time to get an Ipad charger and did also use my own ipad charger that my said you only can use that ipad charger. That how much express at the moment and i'm not sure if i put in the right group of scope sorry if i did . How do I deal with my mother who limits my relationship and dating and changes bits of the rules?

Albus_Scope

Heya @Splatmate24 how're you doing?

I saw no one had been able to offer any advice here, so I just wanted to say hi and give the post a little boost so hopefully more people will see it.

Splatmate24

Albus_Scope  I been ok but already started to hate this year . is has not be my year at all 

Maurice123

As someone who has a wheelchair to get around I have a lot of sympathy for you. I am lucky because apart from a missing half leg I am in good health.
I think you need to try and establish a working relationship with your mother. Why not list the things you want to do and ask your mother to list her objections to the ones she does not like. You seem to be dependent on her. That can be very frustrating. You do not want to be dependant on anyone and you want your own life but you still have to come home after meeting anybody and that means that somebody has to pick you up afterwards s0 you need to be understanding.. I also think it would help if you created an interest in something like painting or maybe history. You would then be able to discuss these subjects with others and maybe make more friends. Best wishes

Splatmate24

@Maurice123 we don't share same interested . can't read without  glasses . takes long times to do anything with me .  always shutting and always pusher her way comes to dating to only me . nobody esle in my Family   can date who they want . i'm one that t to date men with learning disabilities .  my mum prefer disabled dating sites over mainstream . i dislike disabled dating sites . prefer mainstream and yep she always judge every single men . always argue every single time when comes dating . doesn't seem to let go . she said no one when comes to note . doesn't reply to my text or doesn't' reponed to my calls . yet if i message a text or call from me . she get angry at me for nothing 

Maurice123

I often feel helpless having to depend one able person only that I can trust to take me out and is strong enough to move me safely.  Does your mother stay with you when you go on a date? I also find disabled dating sites unsatisfactory. They mostly have few women and it upsets me to read how badly disabled some people are. It is also a nuisance when you have learning difficulties. I think it could be helpful if you could speak to a carer not a social worker (they are always too busy to spend much time with you). You really want somebody to talk to other than your mother. Have you tried Scope management for ideas. They will have the details of some organisations you could ring. Have you access to a phone? You must tell your mother what you are doing so that she will nit think you are going behind her back. You could tell her that you are looking for new friends. Surely she cannot object to that?

Splatmate24

@Maurice and i also i'm not interested in much with being friends and was more looking for like simaler to match makers but won't happen and i don't think my mum will not like a some organization i had time making friends . has try therapy . i'm more looking for long term potential  partner that is more near my age that is age 25 year old .

Maurice123

That is good. I wish you well