Partner bringing up all I won’t be able to do for baby
TB08
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My partners pregnant with our first baby together and my partner keeps bringing up everything I won’t be able to do .she says she doesn’t mean it bad but its making me feel rubbish . Things like “I don’t know how you cope knowing you won’t be able to run around with them” “it’s gonna be hard when they grow up tho as there gonna be embarrassed of you in front of their friends that’s just natural” “there’s gonna be things you’re not gonna be able to do like run around and play on beach with them but I don’t wanna be made to feel bad because I still wanna do that with them”
I never had any doubts about my parenting but now the closer it gets the less confident I feel
my partner is incredible and doesn’t mean it to be unkind but whatever I try to say she still keeps bringing these things up
I never had any doubts about my parenting but now the closer it gets the less confident I feel
my partner is incredible and doesn’t mean it to be unkind but whatever I try to say she still keeps bringing these things up
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Hi @TB08 congratulations on your first baby and welcome to the forum. I'm pretty sure your going to be able to do lots of things with your child. You will find ways around it, just enjoy the moment.
Speak to your partner and explain how you find the negative upsetting. Noone knows how your son will feel about your disabilities and he or she will love you regardless.0 -
TB08 said:My partners pregnant with our first baby together and my partner keeps bringing up everything I won’t be able to do .she says she doesn’t mean it bad but its making me feel rubbish . Things like “I don’t know how you cope knowing you won’t be able to run around with them” “it’s gonna be hard when they grow up tho as there gonna be embarrassed of you in front of their friends that’s just natural” “there’s gonna be things you’re not gonna be able to do like run around and play on beach with them but I don’t wanna be made to feel bad because I still wanna do that with them”
I never had any doubts about my parenting but now the closer it gets the less confident I feel
my partner is incredible and doesn’t mean it to be unkind but whatever I try to say she still keeps bringing these things up
You are probably worrying about the future and that is only natural but try to enjoy the present as well0 -
Hi @TB08. Congratulations on becoming a parent soon! I will preface this by saying I'm not a parent, so I won't give any big bits of advice on that as I am vastly underqualified for that part! But I think some of the other members have given some lovely views so far.
If your partner is saying these hurtful things, I think it might be a good idea to have a serious chat about it so she knows how much it's affecting your confidence. And maybe talk about all the stuff that you're both looking forward to as well.
I can only speak from experience in a relationship rather than parenting, but everyone brings different things to the table. It's a partnership, so it doesn't mean you're any less of a brilliant partner/parent if there are things that you're not able to do. You'll be great at some things that your partner won't be, and vice versa. I'm sure you'll be a brilliant parent
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