Friends dealing with his mum saying he's "seeking attention"

wandering_chris
wandering_chris Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 104 Empowering
in Mental health and wellbeing
From what I hear she has been making sly little comments all day, recently she said something about him seeking attention and wanting to go to the "silly hospital" again. Or said to him "This carer's kid has cancer and you make everything all about you".

Now, he put this down to tiredness but it hurts him to hear this a week after a breakdown, ya know?

Any advice gang? She was ok and calm all this week but has just started on him out of the blue.




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  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 10,798 Scope Online Community Coordinator
    Heya @wandering_chris, I wasn't about when you mentioned your friend previously, but I just wanted to say I hope the recovery is smooth and they're able to be gentle with themselves for a while. It's a lot to go through and process. 

    As for the mother, unfortunately this is a narrative I've heard a lot from my friends who had to go through what your friend has.  It's mostly a weird way of them getting over things, processing the events/trauma and a lack of education/empathy on the struggles at hand.  I know it can REALLY hurt, but I hope your friend can see they're not being nasty for the sake of it.
     If she continues, it may be worth it for your friend to have a frank chat with the mother about how their words are affecting them? I understand mental energy wont be at a premium currently.  

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