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mandy322
mandy322 Community member Posts: 5 Listener
Hi im mandy I'm housebound and use a wheelchair chair I am in pain everyday and every night it never leaves me it's all cause I was in a very violent relationship from the age of 13 wen I was 22.that is wen he put me in a wheelchair that day was the day my life ended I have no family as I wasn't wanted I was dumped around  my partners house at. 13 from one hell to the next I'm in bed 24/7 in shear agony. But I'm still hear fighting so never give up I pray everyday that one day I will walk again I am 46 the severe ostio arthritis has spread from the injury to other joints in my knees I have no muscle mass and bone is growing over bone and now wen I move the leg I have to do it slow one wrong move and it feel like the bones are breaking and wen I get up to go to the bathroom it sounds like someone crushing a crisp packet the hospital says its too late now to operate that they are to badly damaged and say I have to live this way till I die.

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  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,133 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @mandy322 - & welcome to the community, Mandy. Thank you for joining & telling us all a little about yourself. You've been through so much, & living with the consequences, but all credit to you for retaining your positivity, & being a fighter.
    Have you had any help from Drs, physios, a musculoskeletal team, had a needs assessment: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/social-care-and-support-guide/help-from-social-services-and-charities/getting-a-needs-assessment/  which you can do yourself, to get some help & support?

  • letitbe
    letitbe Community member Posts: 343 Pioneering
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    mandy322 said:
    Hi im mandy I'm housebound and use a wheelchair chair I am in pain everyday and every night it never leaves me it's all cause I was in a very violent relationship from the age of 13 wen I was 22.that is wen he put me in a wheelchair that day was the day my life ended I have no family as I wasn't wanted I was dumped around  my partners house at. 13 from one hell to the next I'm in bed 24/7 in shear agony. But I'm still hear fighting so never give up I pray everyday that one day I will walk again I am 46 the severe ostio arthritis has spread from the injury to other joints in my knees I have no muscle mass and bone is growing over bone and now wen I move the leg I have to do it slow one wrong move and it feel like the bones are breaking and wen I get up to go to the bathroom it sounds like someone crushing a crisp packet the hospital says its too late now to operate that they are to badly damaged and say I have to live this way till I die.
    Thanks for sharing this Mandy and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this at such a young age . 
    Sending a lot of positivity your way ( I know only too well how difficult that can be ) x
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 52,628 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @mandy322 welcome to the forum. I'm so sorry that you were treated so bad in child hood and your partner doing this to you, it's really terrible and now you have to live life suffering.
    I hope your partner got done for this. 
    You sound very positive saying never give up bless you. 
    But your right, your so right as not giving up gives you strength. 
    Do you have care or anyone helping you. If not sounds like you might benefit from carers at least.

    You have come to the right forum to get emotional support and advice. Plus to make friends. There is always someone here to talk to. 

    Have you seen physiotherapy recently 
  • Steve_in_The_City
    Steve_in_The_City Scope Member Posts: 589 Pioneering
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    Here is a lot of love to you. Never give up. Life is a bit of a battle sometimes but you have to kick it where it hurts. So never give up. You may never believe this but things get better one way or the other. x
  • luvpink
    luvpink Community member Posts: 100 Pioneering
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    @mandy322 welcome to the community and thank you for sharing with us a bit about yourself.
    sending you virtual love and hugs. X 💕
  • mandy322
    mandy322 Community member Posts: 5 Listener
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    chiarieds said:
    Hi @mandy322 - & welcome to the community, Mandy. Thank you for joining & telling us all a little about yourself. You've been through so much, & living with the consequences, but all credit to you for retaining your positivity, & being a fighter.
    Have you had any help from Drs, physios, a musculoskeletal team, had a needs assessment: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/social-care-and-support-guide/help-from-social-services-and-charities/getting-a-needs-assessment/  which you can do yourself, to get some help & support?

    Yes I have had 6 physios been to 4 pain clinic and been discharged from 4 hospitals they all say it's too late now to do the surgery.
  • mandy322
    mandy322 Community member Posts: 5 Listener
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    Sandy_123 said:
    Hi @mandy322 welcome to the forum. I'm so sorry that you were treated so bad in child hood and your partner doing this to you, it's really terrible and now you have to live life suffering.
    I hope your partner got done for this. 
    You sound very positive saying never give up bless you. 
    But your right, your so right as not giving up gives you strength. 
    Do you have care or anyone helping you. If not sounds like you might benefit from carers at least.

    You have come to the right forum to get emotional support and advice. Plus to make friends. There is always someone here to talk to. 

    Have you seen physiotherapy recently 
    Yes thank you so much hun yes I've seen 6 physios since it happened they all say the same thing that it is too painful to do the exercises.
  • cupcake88
    cupcake88 Posts: 1,293 Pioneering
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    Hi Mandy i my self am a survivor of domestic violence . Since what happened to me I became mentally disabled I live with flash backs every day and I also hear voices and have visions this is some thing I never had before being in an abusive relationship. I keep going as well even tho it’s hard . You sound like a strong women 
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