Figuring out my trueself

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HaileyDanielle

Figuring out my truesel took me 3 years.It was after being diagnosed with asperger's syndrome at age 10,my parents were told I would have LGBT identity issues and let me figure this out.They did and it was at age 13,I started going into my mother's closet trying on her clothes and shoes.It including trying on her pantyhose enjoying it.This was when my parents were not home.I was not caught at first and finally did.Mother caught me and was not mad at me.I told her I enjoy wearing feminine clothing.She did listen and knew I was a crossdresser.Dad was told and did take it well.Both adjusted well to this.I started crossdressing at home twice a week.Knew also I was happy as Hailey growing my hair out after I started.Age 15,told them I wanted to go fulltime as Hailey.Did and they seen me much happier.My therapist was involved getting school to let me go as Hailey and this was worked out well.My parents,they see me as a much happier daughter with their support.Know this is me to this day

66Mustang

I'm so glad to hear this and it's a nice story to read and it's great that you are much happier and more comfortable now

I have experienced some slight gender "complexities" myself…I don't really like to associate with any gender, if someone put a gun to my head I'd say I was non-binary, but I don't actually care what pronouns people use for me and stuff

I did some sessions for psychology at a gender clinic where they tried to assist me in figuring myself out, and I met lots of people from all different genders and with a multitude of different aims as to which direction they wanted to take themselves

It's nice to hear of how accepting people were for you. I actually had no issues with telling anyone either, including some quite "conservative" family members, well I say "no issues", the only issues were my own anxiety and hesitancy to disclose

I'm interested in hearing that you did well at school. I didn't disclose anything at school but I fear that would not have gone well. In my school you were pretty much considered gay (which, at my school, was itself considered a negative thing) if you could read and write. 😕 I'm really glad it worked out well for you though as I find those years are quite formative and if you get bullied or things go wrong at that stage in life it takes a lot of unlearning and rediscovery to put things right