Wedding Anniversary

MobileGames
MobileGames Online Community Member Posts: 168 Empowering
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Morning everyone. Last Monday I forgot my sisters wedding anniversary. It was the first time in 18 years, and when she came over last Saturday,she had a right go at me. I'm her half sister,had the same Dad,and she was saying how she never asked for a new mum and a little sister. Both Mum and Dad passed away back in 2022. I thought "It's all coming out now." What she said has really hurt me. Am I wrong to feel hurt by this? Is she projecting onto me?

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  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Online Community Member Posts: 14,987 Championing

    Sorry to hear about that

    The only one who knows the full goings on and background is you I think so it is kind of useless to compare in a way as every family has different types of relationship

    But I do think if my brother ever got married then yeah I'd kind of feel deserving at getting a bit of a telling off for forgetting his anniversary, even if I had stuff going on that meant I could explain forgetting

    That said if my brother ever stayed with a partner for a whole year that alone would be worth celebrating 🙄 😆

    If he was to have a go at me for choices my parents may have made that were nothing to do with me, though, I'd certainly be upset, so no… I don't think you are "wrong" to feel hurt by this

    Also "right" or "wrong" isn't really something that you can apply to feelings anyway, they are your feelings so by definition they are correct…whether you can rationalise them to change how you feel is another story though!!

    Good luck

  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 8,327 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Sorry to hear this @MobileGames it's totally ok to feel hurt by what was said. Though my sister is single, I think if I forgot her pretend wedding anniversary, she wouldn't mind. Now if her pretend husband had missed it, that'd be a different story!

  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 59,306 Championing

    Ive never bought my siblings anything for their wedding anniversary and I don't intend to. I leave it to their wives or husbands. It's a bit spiteful what was said

  • MobileGames
    MobileGames Online Community Member Posts: 168 Empowering

    Sandy_123. Thank you. Yes it is.

  • onlymeagain
    onlymeagain Online Community Member Posts: 99 Contributor

    Yeah, I'd be upset too.
    Our family rarely buy us presents or send cards even though we always do. But we do it because we love them, not to get something back.

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