Discrimination? Need some advice

orangefresh

my son has severe adhd/ autism, and suffers with ticks, he is in alternative provision education as mainstream cannot meet his needs.
he has recently been getting bullied but school have sorted that really quickly, they have removed the bully and now my child is back in school, with the stress of last week, my son has developed a new tick, which is very obvious and it is consistent movement of his head and neck, which is really bothering him as it’s hurting him. But in class yesterday a child was taking the mick out of my son and his ticks, my child responded with ‘shut up you freak’ so he was red carded for that, and I support a concequence for that language and behaviour towards another child considering he’s just been bullied himself. But the issue is, my som said to his teacher, it’s like me taking the mick out of someone who’s disabled and his teacher said, how are you comparing yourself to a disabled person, adhd isn’t a disability???

this also is a pastoral member of staff, I’m just so baffled why a proffesojal adult would say that to my son. He had a valid point. Someone was taking the mick out of his disability, which is what it is.

All I seem to do is write to school, so was ready to write something else and I thought I better get some advice incase I’m just taking it too hard because of recent issues, but I think it’s really bad to be honest

Jimm_Alumni

This feels a little bit like a scenario where (except yourself) everyone has done something wrong. The child was wrong for taking the mick out of your sons tick, as that is a part of their disability. Your son was wrong for using language like that. The teacher was wrong for for saying that ADHD/Autism is not a disability. And given they are the professional in that situation it is the most egregious in my view. They shouldn't be saying things like that at all.

I think Beaver79 has given a great resource. I'd also like to signpost the Young Minds guide for ADHD, it has some sections in there about working with the school. It sounds like some staff at the school need some guidance/training around what ADHD is! https://www.youngminds.org.uk/parent/parents-a-z-mental-health-guide/adhd/