RBKC relocating again to another temp accm in east london

chopwell20

Dealing with a challenging situation where we've been residing in RBKC since 2012, caring for an 80-year-old disabled person who has no friends or family, and is dependent on extensive care due to multiple health issues including heart attacks, strokes, spinal injuries, gout, and more. Despite the council providing only 3 hours of daily care, it's insufficient given his needs. We're a family with two children born in 2011 and 2014, both attending school in RBKC since day one, although we were relocated to temporary accommodation in 2019. We've managed to continue with the same school through daily travel, alongside fulfilling our caring responsibilities.

Attempts to secure suitable housing through multiple applications and requests via councillors and MPs have largely been unsuccessful. One review in 2021 acknowledged our need for separate bedrooms due to children sharing, but despite approval, suitable relocation hasn't occurred. Only after escalating with frequent complaints did the council identify a suitable property, but it's located in East London, West Ham—12 miles away, requiring a 1 to 1.5-hour commute each way. This makes it nearly impossible to manage caring duties, which require twice-daily attendance.

Living in RBKC for over a decade, we've built a supportive network of friends and children's friends, providing crucial emotional support. Moving further away threatens to sever these connections, exacerbating an already challenging situation.

Seeking Help Online:

• Housing Advocacy: Advice on navigating council housing policies and advocating for suitable local accommodation.
• Caring Support: Guidance on managing extensive caring responsibilities while navigating housing challenges.
• Community Resources: Connections to local support groups or forums that may offer practical advice or solidarity.
• Legal Assistance: Insight into legal rights concerning suitable housing for families with dependent care needs.
• Emotional Support: Strategies for maintaining emotional resilience during prolonged uncertainty and relocation challenges.

Navigating these complex issues requires a multifaceted approach, combining practical advocacy with emotional support to ensure the best outcomes for our family and the disabled person we care for.

what we have missed or i am being dramatic with the change which i am not accepting ? i was also diagnosed with PTSD and have this impacted me on daily basis as anxiety triggering the panic attacks and now feel helpless with situation and living with it now.

first review was challanged in court which was struck out due to procedural error and costed me £5000 which is also i am paying back in instalments. add more if comes in mind what have i not done so far !

any advice will be appreciated.

Albus_Scope

Hi there @chopwell20 and welcome to the community.

That doesnt sound like an easy situation, I'm so sorry. We cant offer legal advice here, but we can offer that emotional support. We have a very knowledgeable bunch here, so I'm hoping someone will be able to offer some advice or pointers soon.
Are you in regular contact with your GP regarding your mental health? I know first hand how difficult PTSD can be at the best of times.

chopwell20

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/879620#Comment_879620

i had cbt treatment twice which triggers my panic attacks. but then told it got to live with it but leanr to manage it which i dont know how was helpful.

Albus_Scope

That certainly sounds less than helpful! It's different for everyone but (not medical advice) I found EMDR therapy really worked wonders on my PTSD. So it may be worth asking your doctor about it?

chopwell20

definatley would look into it and ask GP. Thanks

chopwell20

another thing to add my kids grand dad who is disabled also is the same person i look after. not a blood related but been together thick and thin and kids grew up with him. and now council moving us far from him more than an hour journey far. why they give any regards to children welfare ?

Rosie_Scope

Hi @chopwell20, Sorry you're going through this, it must be really difficult to face moving so far, especially with your kids and your local connections. I'm not too familiar with housing issues, so I'm afraid I can't answer your question myself.

But have you checked to see if there is a local housing advisor that might be able to answer some of your questions? Advice Local have a directory that might be worth a go. Hopefully someone might be able to offer you some more clarity and advice about what's possible in your circumstances. Hope you can find a way forward soon.