I'm in an awful situation and not sure if I'm going to get out alive as losing hope. I live in a bedsit in sheltered housing. There's no longer a warden but lots of communal areas, such as a laundry and lounge. A coordinator comes in for 2 hours once a week. I have been living in the awful situation for 2 years, where a man keeps hassling me. I have high functioning Asperger syndrome, where I wasn't diagnosed until age 45, after a lifetime of difficulty and not always seeing the bad intentions of others. Although I don't think I need to live in sheltered housing, but it was all that was available when I applied for social housing. When I first moved here I wanted to make friends and gave him money and bought him things to make him happy, but when I felt I was being taken advantage of and didn't do so much, he started turning nasty. One of the reasons I went off being friends with him was that he was often drunk and spent the money I gave him in the pub. I've complained about him to the main sheltered housing manager, with a 4 page letter documenting everything that happened, who told me to go back to the coordinator. When I asked the coordinator if the housing association could move me away from him, I was told they only work with the council housing register to house people. Although I know that they have moved people.
I'm not living in peace and freedom and shouldn't that be a human right? He does things like when he saw me putting things in a communal cupboard as he was walking down the stairs, a few hours later I'm creeped out in my own home, as he has taken what I put in there and put outside my door. There's another man who joins in with him making sarcastic noises as I walk past the communal seats outside the lounge, and they have taken over the lounge to sit in there all day and night, and when I was in the lounge, he makes intimidating noises. Another time he started shouting drunken abuse at me when I walked to the communal outside dustbins. My GP wrote a letter to the social housing register to say that living here is causing me anxiety, and I was put on Band 3 of the register, where there are sometimes 100s of people in front of anything I bid for, so I'm unsure if I will live long enough to ever move on Band 3, as I've been really ill from anxiety, so I think that I will either go crazy or die from stress if I stay here much longer. I think the housing association did have a word with him, but it made things worse for me because as soon as they left the building, he was telling other residents that I reported him. He even shouted at the sheltered housing coordinator once and another woman moved away after he made her feel intimidated.
I have PTSD from childhood abuse and high blood pressure, so can't cope with being constantly intimidated in my home or just walking outside. Even when I went to the police it felt as if I was on trial, as after 2 years of trying to move and going to various authorities, and even when trying to walk around the back of the building down an alley to avoid walking past the lounge or communal seats outside, he was stood at the end of the alley to intimidate me, where he wouldn't move until I got my phone out my handbag to record if anything happened, and a PCSO told me that I shouldn't carry my phone if I feel in danger, as he thought I was recording him. Yet nobody cared that him standing at the end of the alley made me feel so ill, that I was shaking and couldn't think straight when being asked questions in the shops I was going to.
The first time I contacted the police, I was patronised and told that I should do more outside the building, as if I wasn't taken seriously because I told them I have ASD. When I did something outside the building to join a club, he was there, but why should he be allowed to take over where I live anyway?
The last time he was shouting drunken abuse at me was below the flat of a man who was found dead a couple of days later. Another resident said that the one who died committed suicide, but whatever the cause of death, the man in question shouting abuse at me must have been one of the last things he heard. Whenever I ask him to go away, mind his own business or leave me alone, he starts calling me names like loony. He keeps doing things where whatever he sees me doing, he finds a way to make a fuss about it to try and either get me into trouble or get others to join in with him bullying me, and there are 2 other residents who support him.
I'm scared that I'm going to die or go mad, as if I've tried for 2 years to move away from him by going to many authorities, then will there ever be any hope of having help to move? I'm also scared that if I did eventually have help to move, that I won't have any options about where that will be, so I'm miles away from things I know. Somebody told me that my GP could do something called a Duty to Refer. Does anybody know what that is and if it could help me to move?
