Feel like I can’t go outside:(

sonor360

Hi,

I’m feeling so lost at the moment, mainly because I can’t enjoy gardening anymore. A little insight… we moved to this property 3 years ago an everyone stated how nasty my next door neighbour is. Of course I didn’t listen and befriended her straight away! I thought I like to find out what a person is like myself but turns out there were right!! Anyway, after a few months of talking etc she got back with her ex partner and found out I chatted to him one day. So she stopped talking to me, I didn’t really care anyway because as a disabled single mum of 3 children, one being on the nd pathway and is really struggling. I just didn’t have the time! So since then she has reversed into my car, laughed at my elderly father falling off a ladder, squirted my plants with weed killer but the most hurtful thing she has done was scream to her son (in front of me) “oh I’m so glad you haven’t got mental health issues” (insinuating my daughter) and “I’m so glad you’re not house bound” to say these things about a child is evil in my opinion!!!

The only little time I get and when I could manage, I would enjoy gardening but i don’t want to go outside now. She knows when ever I’m out the garden and just shout’s ludicrous stuff. I’ve put cameras up, contacted the police but because she’s not saying it directly to me, they can’t do anything:( she made the previous neighbour on the other sides life a living hell! She since passed away and no one in the street like her. I feel like just packing our stuff up and moving but I wouldn’t want to regret it.

thanks for reading.. I’m feeling so down today xx

Sharebear

I'm so sorry you ate having this much trouble from a neighbour. The world is not a nice place at the minute!

You don't say if you own your home or in social housing.if you are in social housing maybe a chat with your housing officer would help. I suppose it depends on your area.

It sounds like she needs to grow up bit. How dare she make you feel like his.

I wish I could help make tour life better. I'm sending hugs to you and your family.

Take care x

Sharebear

Sorry for typing errors in the above

sonor360

awwww thanks you so much sharebear 🫶🏽 that means so much to me right now, thank you xx it is a housing association house and even though we love our home, I have decided to move to a different town where my family are. The one thing which is holding me back is I’m worried about my youngest and starting a new school, what if we regret it? I suppose we could come back but not next door to pure evil again. I have a good heart and I always put people before myself and I just can’t understand how anyone can be so poisonous you know? Good idea about telling the housing officer, she knows bits and pieces but not the full extent. I will email her in the morning to let her know how we feel, thank you again so much for replying and your kind words xx

judie

No one has the right to make you feel so miserable in your own home. The neighbour obviously has personality disorders of her own but that doesn't excuse intimidating behaviour. As suggested, your housing association should be doing more to help you, not ignoring the problem. Good luck, chin up x

Sharebear

@sonor360 how old is your child ? I'm sure they will settle in a new school. They will be better away from the neighbour too. Let us know how you get on with housing association. Wishing you loads luck. 🤞🍀🧧

sonor360

thank you so much both for your replies 🫶🏽 my youngest is 9 and very sociable so will hopefully fit in anywhere. We live by the coast and I waited 4 years to get here!! Some other neighbours have mine said don’t move, don’t let her win but they don’t have to live next door to her. I was in an abusive relationship with the children’s father for years and I thought this home would be our forever home you know? But I’m not happy. Usually I don’t really care about myself, it’s only the children I care and worry about and I put on a happy front to them but they’re not stupid. They know what kind of person she is!

She is a carer and is heavily into drugs, I wouldn’t want someone like that caring for any of my family members!! Spot on about the personality disorders Judie but unfortunately she thinks it’s everyone else’s fault and never looks inwards to herself. Apparently it’s the first time she’s worked in years? So she shouts at everyone who doesn’t work and calls them lazy etc. even a man with schizophrenia:(

Yes I’ve decided I can’t live here anymore, it’s no good for my mental health what so ever! Thanks for listening and letting me have a rant 🥰🥰 it’s funny how when you write things down you realise what needs to be done 🫶🏽🥰 thank you xx