Move based on friendships and favouritism?

afv_x

Hi, so I am a TL who moved to my current department over a year ago. I became friends with my manager and the other TLs who happened to be her friends and 1 was her roommate. 

We had another TL move over a few months ago and 2 months later there was a business demand to move a TL she obvs didn’t want her friends moved and told her boss this and I was going through domestic abuse at the time so she couldn’t really move me. So the new TL was moved again. 

I was on annual leave on Thursday and returned to work and she called me bang on 9am and told me I was being moved departments and I broke down in tears as my current department I can have my 2 year old with me whereas the new one I can’t and I’m only entitled to 15 hours free childcare a week and I work 40 hours with no help from anyone. This kind of also meant I may need to ask his dad to live with us to support and his the one who was treating me awfully. My managers response was “talk to me” I told her it’s **** and kept crying and she then told me she had said to her boss “don’t worry amber is a grown woman she will understand” and I felt like that was her trying to manipulate how I should feel. I already had said to my friends before that if push comes to shove and someone has to move ofc it would be me as she would back her friends although she was trying to tell me she had to tell her boss to make the decision as she didn’t want to. I just feel like the decision has been made unfairly based on personal friendships and I’ve been there longer than her roommate too and it’s also put me in a poor situation. I have been in meetings with our HR department and have seen how they speak of people or even managers that raise grievances against higher management and how all the info goes back to higher management. I’m just not sure what my rights are here as this is favouritism and nepotism. Bearing in mind I came in on the Friday and was told I’m moving on the Tuesday. I did log off for the whole day after that as I went through severe post natal and the abuse I went through I am really triggered by stuff like this and change and knowing I was picked because her real friends would obvs be untouchable. My issue isn’t so much my childcare as I’ll somewhat manage but it is how unfairly the decision has been made. There is a current grievance ongoing from another TL who is off atm suggesting my manager shows favouritism to her roommate /friend. And we work from home so will never have that close friendship she has with the outside work lot she brought in anyway so it’ll always be her backing them. They aren’t even an option to her to move

Albus_Scope

Hi there @afv_x and welcome to the community.
I'm really sorry to hear your tale, that sounds unfair on you because you work from home.
Have you spoken to anyone from ACAS about this? They're specialists in employment law