My son

Tammynelson905

Hello I new to this group.

I have som age 8 who has Autism and ADHD . He has complex needs he is currently out of education as the school he was in be for was sending him more crazy everyday literally to the point I couldn't deal with it I had to listen to hours and hours of abuse aggressiveness and throwing stuff and just genuinely being dangers.. it was crazy time we can say past 2 years av being hard very hard. This is why I took the closes to take him out of school for the moment .we have EHCP again don't have a clue about any of this .

It was also recommended we needed support vi social and rez team but they closed the case because I am good mum about from my son his needs our stuggles my kids are well loved and well cared for so they keep closing the case while I agree with this on some level because I not bad mum I live for my kids. But the same time since they closed the case they is no suppert for my self for my son for any of us witch we are in desperate need of .

They are in the middle of talking with school about his needs n what support they can provide going threw his ehcp see if they can meet his needs in the EHCP. But the problem is I have only being able to name one school such as car manor it was first agreed haider that would go into full Special provision such as springwell but as I seen theses school and other children there it quite of big step to take so I wasn't too keen on putting him in there as the more bad he see the more bad he does . So I like him to have as much normally as possible if you get me . But I stool with witch school provide this help and also stuck with witch options to take .

And also just genuinely support with manging him how to deal with the out hurts he is unpredictable he that full of energy very difficult for us to do anything as a family i have 2 daughters also anything we do such as bowling swimming anything he just goes crazy and becomes more and more dangers so we are pretty much house bond most of the time . It so difficult todo anything I would like advice on how people deal with theses

Bluebell21

Hi @Tammynelson905 Welcome to the Community. You might find IPSEA are able to help you.

https://www.ipsea.org.uk

Take care.

Doris_Scope

Hi @Tammynelson905

Welcome to the community. I can see that it has been extremely hard for you and your family. Children spend most of their early life at school, and when it is the wrong place, it can be so hard for everyone.

You say that you have only got one option to put on the EHCP? Have you explored all of the schools in your area? If you look on your Local Offer, they will name all of the schools in your county with special educational needs support.

Your son sounds very energetic and also sounds as though he has a lack of danger awareness. The Challenging Behaviour Foundation is a good resource for looking at strategies. Newbold Hope is also fantastic for advice around extreme behaviour and additional needs. She also has a Facebook page that you have to ask to join. There will be lots of other parents in very a very similar position to yourself that you could chat to.

As @Bluebell21 said IPSEA is a great site for free legal advice around special education. You can book an appointment on their open diary system for a free appointment and they also have a helpline that is open three days a week. It can be really difficult to get an appointment, but it is worth persevering as they give great advice.

I hope this helps, even if it is in a small way. Don't hesitate to come back if you have more questions. We are here to help as much as we can.

@Doris_Scope

SaraC_Scope

Hi @Tammynelson905

Welcome to the community. It sounds like you are coping with a lot, but you do sound like an amazing Mum who wants the best for your son and your other family.

Have you reached out to Autism Society. They have lots of useful advice and guidance and might be able to direct you to a local support group. There is also the Additude Magazine which has resources and techniques to help you learn more about ADHD.

As Bluebell21 has said, IPSEA is a great support for educational advice. Keep speaking to school and other professional. It's ok to do this. I'm wondering if you have considered applying for a CEA Card which allows your son to visit the cinema at a reduced rate with a carer. You could also attend during specialist screenings disabled families. The MAX Card also offers discounts on days out with support for disabled families.

I hope these resources help in some way. The community are always here if you have any further questions.

Take care

@SaraC_Scope

Tammynelson905

Thank you all for your advice and theses links I will look into them all .

All of the advice provided bye you all is helpful much appreciated.

I am searching different school on the local leeds city Council website specialising provisions .the problem is now facing is with my sons needs being so complex I just to wait for Holly who deal with the echp to get intouch with them to see if they can provide the suppert he needs.

There places at specialising provision where he was originally ment to go so they was places available for him but I kinda refused this i want him to be in main street with the right suppert I truly believe he can succeed but this school was so unbelievable bad for him his mental health and my and the family massively got worser. With how hard theses past 2 year have being with regards to school and the the support this is now why I finding it hard to find anugher school witch will suite his needs with out it turning our life's upside even more so we stook as I no nothing about other places and how they operate and run . It just all rather overwhelming and hard

Doris_Scope

Hi @Tammynelson905

How are things at the moment? Are you any further forward with looking for a school for your son?

I know it is extremely hard deciding on the right place, so make sure that you visit any that you are considering. It is always better to get a feel for a place when children are there and can often consolidate or change your decisions.

Good luck

@Doris_Scope