losing your child

mandyletts

I hope this is not too upsetting for other people but I want to ask if anyone else here has lost a child?

My daughter Felicity is 4 and I've been trying tomake the most of every day with her but is there anything particlar you wish you had done before saying goodbye? Or even wish yuo hadn't done?

michael57

making the most of every day with her is also making memories that will be with you forever cherish the time and the memories to come you have my utmost respect

Annie_Scope

Hi mandyletts

Thank you for your post. I am so sorry to read this, this must be heartbreaking for you and your family. Although I can’t answer on personal experience, I will agree with what @michael57 has said. Make the most of each day and fill it with happy times, doing things you can do together, as these will be the memories you treasure.

There are some charities that support families of children with life-limiting and life-threatening conditions, such as Together for Short Lives: Children's Charities - Children Hospices and Supporting Children and Families | Rainbow Trust Children's Charity. I'm sure they will be able to offer suggestions for you.

Dependent where you are based, there will be more regional based charities and organisations too.

Look after yourself and we’re all here for you.

Bluebell21

Hi @mandyletts I am so sorry you are going through this. I have lost a child.

Make each day as special as you can for her and keep the memories in your heart.

Do not think of losing her more that you had her on loan for a time, and she touched your life with happiness.

I know even when my daughter was very ill and I knew she would not get better and slowly deteriorated I always hoped some new medication would save her. I think that is how I survived.

Just do your best as I am sure you do and never regret anything you do.

If you have any questions please ask.

Take care.

Sandy_123

Hi @mandyletts so sorry to read about your daughter, I agree with Michael about making memories.

mandyletts

All these messages have made me cry in a good way thank you all, I keep tryign to be strong as I don't want her to see me sad but it is so hard. I think the hardest thing I ever have done in my whole life and I dont really have anyone I can talk to about it

michael57

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/946893#Comment_946893

ah you hang in there and be brave for your little one cry in the dark so she cant see you doesn't make you a bad mum just a stronger one someone is always here if and when you need to vent

Bluebell21

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/946893#Comment_946893

You are a good mum, and it is very hard.

You can talk to us we are here for you and no one knows who you are.

Please take care of yourself.

WhatThe

mandy and Bluebell 😪

I can't imagine the pain of losing your child. I'm so sorry.

Annie_Scope

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/946893#Comment_946893

@mandyletts it sounds like you are doing an amazing job with something so incredibility sad and heartbreaking. I can only imagine how hard it is to go through this, and as the other members have all said we are all here for you. Do try the charities above as they will be able to give you emotional support.

Take care and remember we are all here for you.

Albus_Scope

I don't have anything important to add to this discussion, I just wanted to send some love. ❤️