Hi, my name is Heatherpaul!

Heatherpaul
Heatherpaul Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener
in Start here and say hello!

I’ve found some great advice from this Community for others, so I was hoping to get for myself, regarding my workplace….

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  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 9,534 Championing

    Hi @Heatherpaul Welcome to the Community. I hope you enjoy your time on the forum. Any questions just ask.

    Have a look around and join in when you are ready.

    Take care.

  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 9,211 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Heya @Heatherpaul and welcome from me too. I hope you're doing ok today?

    If you need some support regarding your work, ask away and we'll all do our best to help. 😊

  • Heatherpaul
    Heatherpaul Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener

    That’s so kind, thank you. I am 52 years old woman who is facing the prospect of losing my job due to “performance issues”. I have had episodes of depression most of my life but the onset of the menopause caused my anxiety to soar. The Director of my team is a very intimidating man and there are several instances I can demonstrate where his behaviour was clearly bullying. At one point I felt suicidal because of my experiences with him (the irony is that I work for a well-known suicide prevention charity) and I have had to take to time off for severe stress.

    My question is this: do I jump thru their hoops - knowing that it’s a forgone conclusion that he wants me gone and causing myself a huge amount of stress in the process.

    Sign off work with my mental health for a second time,

    or resign and start looking for another role?

    I am reluctant to do the final option, as my confidence is now at rock bottom and I am 20 years older than everyone else in my team and I may not get another job. I also have a teenage son to support.

    I have raised the bullying issue with HR who were not surprised as this person has been accused of this before, but as I have only been with the charity a year and 9 months, I am not yet passed the golden “two year” mark when I can claim unfair or constructive dismissal.
    My union have suggested lodging a grievance but I don’t feel strong enough right now as I am terrified of being in a meeting with him.

    I started at the charity as a confident and capable woman and I now feel a shell of myself because of my experience there. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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