Married life

Genetics

I wonder what's it's like being married?

anisty

Not much different to living with a partner really.

Ranald

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/128330/married-life

I can tell you about being divorced if you like ;-)

Nightcity

Can't tell you, Always been happier when single.

Ranald

At least I always win

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/970453#Comment_970453

At the very least, I now easily win arguments! My Staffy is a pushover.

Nightcity

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/970455#Comment_970455

haha! and my pug.

Loobylou22

It has its ups and it’s down. Laughter and tears. Rows and discussions. Differences of opinions and coming together if ideas. Bumps and bruises and love and desire. But having lost my husband only a few days ago it’s lonley now. X

shipwreck

so sorry for your loss hope you have family to support you through this sad time x

sunnydays

A living nightmare, marriage didn't suit me.

kitsmum

I love being married. For me it is a partnership. We support each other through the ups and downs. I waited a long time for him and he is just the man I needed and wanted. I am very fortunate to be honest in the man I have.

noman

Being married 3 times is my answer!

noman

Ditto!

noman

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/970455#Comment_970455

So is my Staffy😂

birdwatcher

I'm happily divorced if it's any help😄

Billiegoat

Depends who you marry but as another said here probably no different to having a partner.

It also probably depends on what marriage signifies to you such as commitment. It doesn't guarantee anything.

JennieWren

I’m really blessed to have been happily married for 30 years. Notice I say happily and not perfectly. It’s a compromise at times and you don’t always agree but it’s being for that person, standing with them and helping them to be the best version of themselves and hopefully them you. We joke that I’ve had several husbands and he’s had several wives but we’ve always been faithful. We met at 16 and 21 and married 2 years later and so we’ve changed a lot along the way and not just ageing looks and broader bodies. But the essence of the attraction is still there. It’s worked for us, but marriage isn’t for everyone. I have several friends that are really fulfilled and happy and never married and several that are happier since their divorce.

Bluebell21

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/970458#Comment_970458

I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know we are here for you any time you would like to chat.

Please take care of yourself.

Kimmy87

I'm a very lonely single, I'm too independent to want to get married but having a partner would be so nice, having that support and not having to struggle through life alone.

I've only ever had one brief relationship which lasted a few months, a relationship in name only really but I certainly got a glimpse of what relationships are like.

Sex is the one thing that keeps me content as a single person, and I haven't had any success there for over two months.

The dating (ha) apps destroy mental health, I get myself out and about socialising with different groups never meet anyone who is interested in me.

I try to meet someone nothing happens, I leave it to fate & don't try, nothing happens.

Pretty much resigned now to being alone always, been alone my whole life no reason to think that would ever change after so long.

I just needed to vent, unfortunately other people's success stories just make me feel more of a failure and platitudes like my Aunt is fond of saying "it'll happen when it's meant to" hurt, all I hear is "maybe it'll happen one day but you are meant to spend most of your life alone"

poppy123456

Been there, done that, never again 😂 been single for decades and very happy. I couldn't share my life with anyone else apart from my children, grandchildren and my cat. Besides, there wouldn't be enough of room in my bed, my cat takes most of it.

colejames

My experience is only from looking at marriages from the outside and I've yet to see any marriage that is different from any relationship, it's the getting out of them that is different and I understand that instead of the money being split two ways in a relationship, in a marriage it goes four ways you, your spouse and both of you solicitors.

I was a late starter but I do actually thank my lucky stars that I've never made it to marriage. Much as I would have loved it when I was younger, my partners were certainly better as exs.

None of my relationships have got as far as marriage and I really am glad with most of them. I tend to refer to them by a title rather than a name:

Narnia, Top Gun, Santa, Grifter, Baby, Jealous Guy, Exile and the Last Hope lol

I'm in my early 60s now and tbh I've lost interest in finding someone. During all of the above relationships I provided a home for a gay teenager who was in a dangerous situation. He was in transition accommodation between care and having his own place but the other guys were not happy having a **** housed with them. He was nearly 17, so he was old enough to decide what he wanted but even so I went and met with his support worker who also came and visited my home. He did get his own council flat when he was 18 (nearly 19) and then moved to the city for work and love. Unfortunately it turned to **** and he needed a place to stay. He's been back for 14 years now and turns 40 this year. Life has been even more **** on him than it has on me but I have been the constant in his life now for over 23 years and I've found being a "father" far more rewarding than any partnership.

Ranald

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/970518#Comment_970518

You're not wrong about so-called dating apps. I met many woman on dating direct after my divorce in 2009, but I only ever met those "on the rebound" like me; far too messed up for anything good to happen!