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Not looking for symptony yesterday had awful news doctor called at 7pm ! My dad has been feeling really really unwell so he finally agreed to blood test thats when i knew something was up he has total phobia of needles doctor said his prostate levels high high and he displaying last stage of prostate cancer my dad did say to me almost preparing me was saying something drasticslly wrong with him and i have to prepare and be realistic im torn to tell him because he has crippling social anxiety and i know he will flathly refuse to go to hospital long story about mental health and will spend every minute in bits i was so taken back didnt ask doctor any questions im an only child my daughter doesnt really have a relarionship with him as he lives in squalor but he had his bathroom done and i scrubed the place and i was so happy hes the only one in this life that never judged me no matter what he understood true strory when my mum left he jumped in river thames he was in and out of psych wards god what will i do without him hes a total recluse not friendly at all but cares about my mental health so much always been there for me and hes so clever really clever ask him any question about most topics he will know im very very emotional person how will i cope sorry have no ome to talk too i
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Take care of yourself and remember you are stronger than you think x
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Thankyoiu xx
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Thankyou x
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I emiledmy mp said everything just poured it all out there noting rude just said broken by the system broken that labour turned out this way and alot more he wont respond i went for a walk around my area cul de sac god thought dwp man following me this is to much
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Thankyou x
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so sorry to hear this Catherine - its so much to deal with if you get really overwhelmed pls call crisis line , I don’t know if you ever have before but they can sometimes help . When I go out I can think I’m being watched and followed as well . Living like this is torture . Sending a hug 🥰
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So sorry to hear that news @catherine21, take care of yourself and reach out to people if you get overwhelmed
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Thankyou i think i have and a anxiety line x
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Thankyou x
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I’m so sorry to read this @Catherine21 sending love and hugs your way 😞
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Honestly a guy looked at me i went into meltdown it really is torture really is
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Thankyou x
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I’m so sorry to hear this news. I lost my dad 2 days before Christmas so I have some understanding of how hard this is. Sending lots of love.
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Oh im so sorry for you yes its hard how are you doing hope you have good support x
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Sad, so sorry for you. At least you know of the support lines that you can call & I hope your daughter gives you some support too.
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Thankyou x
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Hi @Catherine21 I'm only just seeing this now.So sorry.I am here for you.X
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I think it's a very difficult place to be in as a lot of us have been in simular situations so have an understanding.You are feeling utterly devastated and anxious of what the future holds.What I would do is anything positive that you 'could' possibly both do together like a board game or simply watch tv together.Enjoy each other's company.It is probably going to be hard but you are clearly a very special and loving person.Your strength shines through in the things you write.Its natural to feel the emotions you have right now and a place like this to share.Sending hugs x
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Thankyou jane beautiful message the hard thing is i cant tell him it will make it happen quicker some people think i should but hes a recluse terrible mental health hasnt left flat for years very very stubborn its last stages hes been ill for a while losing so much weight used to be big man over 6 foot strong just thought it was age its a slow cancer people can live years without knowing till the end never was close to my dad until 10 years ago he really proved he was there for me always there god i cant handle my emotions because i dont know any of my family my mum in devon not close hes all i have we are so alike with our ways sense of humour and ive always had a reacuring feeling my dad goes and then my fifi my furbaby goes she has mammary cancer how do people survive loss i think it will drive me insane i hope your ok jane i seen your post abiut stress of uc cruel how they do this cruel sorry to ramble on and thankyou
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Oh yes i brought him loads of dvds cds he loves film and music ah hurts trying not to cry when i talk to him hes like is everything ok ah this life hard enough what can you do
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