Im not feeling this the right place to discuss my topic. My issue is that I feel that my carers are acting in a way that is demeaning & belittling me on a daily basis. Ive just started with this new carer and she is going to destroy my mental health. After a few months of being treated like this Im going to feel its normal & just resignmyself to it. I feel trapped with this carer.
She is coming into my home where I have lived independently for 9 years and belittling me. But i need this carer.
Whats happening is shes coming in and has no idea what my routine is and is just bossing me around. She belittled my recycling saying that it all just gets incinerated. She belittled me saying I was throwing away flowers that were "still fresh" and she wants me to keep rotten flowers in the vase. She belittled me for not folding all the clothes before putting them into a laundry basket. She belittled me for not changing my underwear daily. She belittled me for asking for soap to be put on my back. She made me feel ashamed to ask for a wash saying that her next client will suffer because they will be kept waiting. She told me that I am wrong to want to get into the bath before we start filling it with water and then expected me to put my feet into scalding water…(she was checking the temperature with gloves on). She wants to do laundry everyday so that my flat is constantly filled with evaporating water and damp. She wont listen to me. She poured milk on my breakfast cereal & then told me Im not allowed to eat it until after Ive had a shower.
My home is my sanctuary & Ive always been treated with respect here. Its my safe zone. And now I feel like someone abusive is taking over my space. Im being spoken to like Im an idiot. This is the first week with this carer & every day has been a miserable experience.
My previous carer came once a week for over a year. She treated me like a human being. But this new woman is treating me like someone to just steamroller over. She didnt even introduce herself to me before she started deciding I have no say in anything & that Im just there to do as Im told.
Theres no ettiquette or nothing. Just criticisms, belittling & overriding. It took almost a week to get a bit of eye contact & a brief smile.
I dont feel like this is the right place to discuss this. Im looking for a place where disabled people discuss their experiencing of recieving care. I dont want to be criticising a carer in front of people who ARE carers.
Can anyone please recommend a place where disabled people can discuss this topic with privacy thats just for disabled people?
Thank you
