Asking for help from talking therapies because of DWP, feeling dismissed TW

SadOldPanda

Had the follow up call just now after my NHS talking therapies assessment, I thought I'd articulated my points well during the first call boy was I wrong

He called up clarified what help I wanted and said he’d talk to his supervisor again, I don’t think he understands why I wanted help in the first place despite practically falling apart when I first spoke to him. The first suggestion was citizens advice ( I don't think they want to hear about my meltdowns ) Then he said they only do counciling and CBT I said I asked about trauma focused therapy and he asked ‘what trauma?’ Not in a mean way but genuinely confused! I told him againbecause the dwp make me suicidal. I told him the first time my mental health has deteriorated, the eating disorder is starting to pop up again ( not enough for ed services) having passive suicidal thoughts and I'm self harming badly. Oh he also sent me a link to a self help drop in! Shame since I already mentioned I can't deal with people!

I genuinely think he heard DWP on the assessment and stopped listening

I thought I might be to bad for them considering my long and complex mental health history plus autism not considered to be not bad enough

I feel so completely defeated, don't worry mods I'm fine I just wanted to rant.

gemslover

i feel for you. you feel invisible. I hear you. Morons!

I tried getting help for counselling for narc mom and scapegoat daughter. none of the cousellors in my neck fo the woods were trained in that. back to youtube!

youtube is my goto thing when needing answers. My problem is different to yours but i'm SURE you'll find someone if you do the right search.

I have screaming fits when I feel invisible and not heard. I'm so loud I cover my ears.

Had a screaming fit at the docs when the nurse was trying and failed to get a blood test from me. It was total stress from the 2 hours and 10 mins PIP phone assessment on the monday morning at 8am. If your'e ill and sleep til 11am on pregabalin, you're not at your best at 8am. it was DRAINING

i UNDERSTAND YOU.

which is what this forum is all about. shame we can't chat on facebook. that' would be good woudln't it. face to face video calls with real people…..

Hope you're feeling better. it really helps to feel you're not alone.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

SadOldPanda

Thankyou for the support, after another call I have been offered eight sessions of bloody CBT in five months time…. Joy. Well perhaps it will show them that CBT won’t work for me and then they can refer me or something….

Oh and I also got a link to a free membership of a very condescending ai app called Wysa which is supposed to give you CBT help but is such a scripted patronising thing it made me feel worse. Plus if you tell it how bad you are it just gives you links to crisis lines! Not helpful! Though insulting it was kind of cathartic