I am at end wits here living with my mum..

ryleyyg

recently my mum keeps going on about bills and how her debt is annoying her. But the issue is, she’s taking her anger and stress out on me… it’s really stressing me out because when I speak to my dad he doesn’t care one bit…

That’s because my family is mixed with my step mum and her kids etc,

My mum has been getting snappy rude to me, calling me stuff etc.

I was literally about to go to bed and switch of plugs in my room, and she claimed I was “banging” but we live in a flat with rubbish walls…

She bangs and slams stuff everyday and tells me to deal with it, but it’s okay for her to get mad at me.

I’m stuck in doors 24/7 I have no friends and I don’t think people will want to be my friend anyways who would?

I want to do things but I hate going outside, it just seems like I’m trapped lost and tbh idk what to do anymore, I’m turning 22 next week and I don’t even care about my birthday not even thinking about it.

I’m just tired of everything and nothing is fun anymore.

ryleyyg

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/135015/i-am-at-end-wits-here-living-with-my-mum

before people say “I need therapy” I have tried that, and it doesn’t help. My mum is also now threatening to kick me out..

bookrabbit

Maybe your mum needs therapy. She is probably worried about you as well as being bogged under by life. I know my mood plummets when my son isn't doing well. I wonder if he would be better off somewhere else but don't have a clue how to get him the help he needs particularly as he is very resistant to doing anything except sit at his computer all day.

But we usually get on really well. My mother however threw us both out, so I can see it from both sides.

Try looking at it from her perspective and try to imagine if the money worries were yours. Try and find a solution together. Relationships are valuable and worth working on. You aren't a child anymore and the dynamic probably needs updating.

JennieWren

Therapy can very much depend on how the therapist builds a rapport with you and the modes of therapy they use. My first therapist was ok but the second one was much better for me and was much more tasks focused. They were both from the same centre but were very different. It might be worth trying with another therapist. I also got 12 weeks, rather than 6 because of the issues, which probably helped immensely.

If you can’t go out then maybe try different forums etc online. My kids (21 years old 😂) play games over the internet whereas I’ve found YouTube and communities into the same hobbies and interest as me really help. I’ve also discovered new interests and hobbies through YouTube. You might even find some of the psychology channels helpful in dealing with your mum.

There’s a charity called CAP which will help with debt advice for free. They might be able to work with your mum?

ryleyyg

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1032080#Comment_1032080

thank you I will try my best!