How can my mum not take seriously the possible mental health issue I might have?

Katiedimelow20

hello I'm have been noticed no matter what emotion that i do feel and my mum seem to reactive to even frustrated , angry . no matter what emotion do feel , i do think i do have type of mental heath issue but my mum is not getting it . kept being very dismissed when i talk about anxiety, frustrated .. not really getting much done about . my mum ignore my sign for help . dismissive with my symptom was numbness feet's and hands, flutter , pounding heart , shaking finger and legs . and i think i also has some type of panic attack on certain days but not sure which one is was . yep my mum even dismiss my panic attack one time to and did just shut at me . still make me feel frustrated and angry always with my mum .

Rosie_Scope

I'm really sorry that you're feeling dismissed by your mum @Katiedimelow20. Would there be anyone else you could talk to about it?

Or is there anyone who could help you talk to your mum about how you're feeling? Someone you trust, like another family member or friend. Perhaps you could tell them what's happening and they might be able to help you talk to your mum in a calm way.

Have you spoken to your GP about how you're feeling and about the possible panic attacks? They might be able to offer you some help or put you on a list for mental health support too.

Hope things get easier soon 💛

Katiedimelow20

@Rosie_Scope I Have tried to talk about my mum dismissed me with my two of my sister but they still come back and come to talk to mum about . that not been working at . older sister didn't really help with my anxiety to . my mum booked the doctor appointment but i do not think she will help me unless is period issue . i'm not sure which one friends . i not been to my gp yet since my mum will always come with me . i did show both of my sister noctes and experience what i had with anxiety . not yet been diagnosed  with anxiety .

Rosie_Scope

It sounds like you're trying really hard to get her to understand @Katiedimelow20, that must be frustrating.

Next time you go to the doctors, could you ask to go in on your own if you don't feel comfortable with your mum there? Or could one of your sisters come with you instead of your mum?

Katiedimelow20

my sisters don't live with me anymore they got they own places . might as well find some else that maybe more helpful then my mum . i had been watching them and my mum seem to treated them better . both i got older sister and younger sisters . they didn't help with isuse with my mum . i did talk both about anxiety and panic attack . i did show my yongest sister my notes on app called mood press to show what date and day when i did have a panic attack and my mum came in my bedroom and just shut out my name . i also did put that in about my mum thinking i was faking a panic attack .

Katiedimelow20

Update and mum is now is being more worst and reacting even more badly with my mental health issues and anxiety. I'm not sure what to do and my mum canlded two of my work jobs . I'm already Very tired of masking and very tired with dealing with anxiety and my mum all times .

Rosie_Scope

I'm really sorry to hear that @Katiedimelow20, that all sounds really hard. What did your mum do with your jobs, did she cancel them?

Katiedimelow20

@Rosie_Scope did cancel one of the job on wednesday but can't remember much about and i did check my note to see . i has some type of panic attack on Tuesday night when i was about to go to sleep before going to work on wednesday . my mum just walk in and just shout at me at the time panic attack happen

Holly_Scope

Really sorry to read things aren't improving @Katiedimelow20. Have you thought about looking for somewhere else to live or stay for a little while to give you a bit of space?

Katiedimelow20

@Holly_Scope I'm not sure because people in public setting in like work some people can't really understand me when I'm chatting or talking and what I'm trying to say . struggling with spelling and cooking food.

Holly_Scope

Could you perhaps stay with one of your sisters for a little while if things are a bit better there? If you did want to look into another living arrangement there are support options available. Do you receive any outside help at the moment or is it mainly Mum?

Katiedimelow20

@Holly_Scope my oldest sister is same as my mum to and my younger sister i'm not sure what they doing .

Katiedimelow20

Update: Yep my mum is getting worse with me to and still feel anxious and frustrated and as well if anger. Holiday was the worst for it both parents gang up on me and just shouted at me .

Community_Scope

Hi @Katiedimelow20, sorry to hear your situation with your mum is getting worse, we are going to send an email shortly so please keep an eye out for it

Katiedimelow20

Okay and still have been on going problem since I was a teenage. I do not want live the same house but forece to .

Katiedimelow20

is just getting even more worst now and i never happy home with my mum at all and ivery upset and very angry at my mum . took away from my person space and want to help but i do very uncomfortable around going out in public with my mum or going on hoilday . my emotion also are not getting any better . kept getting worst .

Mary_Scope

Parents can be difficult @Katiedimelow20!

Often, they think they are just doing their best which I suppose is understandable to an extent but they don't always understand or see how we're feeling and that is so frustrating! I am sorry to hear that things don't seem to be getting any better with your mum though, do you have anybody else who could help you get through to her?

We also sent you an email yesterday, please could reply to it😄

Katiedimelow20

@Mary_Scope not sure if i can get help . work people don't seem to get and kept asking me to ask my mum about . i don't have anyone at home at all . none of my two sisters will not help . older sister is just like my mum . younger sister try to help but doesn't seem to go out the window . i'm not looking forward tomorrow or day after that .

Mary_Scope

Ah I see @Katiedimelow20, it sounds like a tense situation for you. I'm just wondering if you have you looked into getting help from an advocate or whether its been mentioned in the past?

From what you've described it sounds like it's something that may be helpful to explore as they will help and support you but also it may help your mum give you some more space if she sees that you have got another person in your corner too.

POhWER and VoiceAbility are both advocacy services that may be worth exploring😊

Katiedimelow20

Mary_Scope i don't want to share anything with my mum and i don't feel uncomfortable and my mum will probably used against me . that what does counting making fun of my emotion and lack for being immature and go on .

IanHaines

Those having difficulty in understanding people with mental health problems should have, available to them, a set of courses that they can take - including home courses/online - which will enable them to see what is going on in the patient, and how best to help. It could certainly be instrumental in removing abuse, or neglect, from those choices the unenlightened seem to think they rightfully have!