I’m tired of living with my mum.. but rent is making it hard to move out.

ryleyyg

I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore.. I’m about to go insane and literally scream my head off..

my mum keeps saying my attitude stinks or that I’m moody and rude.
then she screams at me and says “ fudging listen to me”

She’s demanding things onto me saying oh you could be homeless you know. Or no wonder no one wants to talk to you or be around you.

But not once has anyone asked if I’m okay… but if I did try and speak out I’d get told that “ oh just take antidepressants you’ll be fine”

Or for example my dad won’t actually care.
no one texts me asking how am I.. I’m depressed tired and stressed.
they don’t know that some nights I stay up late because it’s peaceful and quiet without all the noise and my rude neighbours shouting.
it gives me time to think and process things.
my mums an alcoholic but she claims she isn’t.
yes she does help out etc.

but I’m tired of it I really am… some days I feel like I’m gonna flip out and just shout but I know I can’t because I’d get kicked out and be homeless..

everything around me is just making me depressed. But if I spoke up about it no one would take it seriously… I have no friends literally no one. I’m just tired..

ryleyyg

she now has come in my room. Crying saying I’m on my own now.
that she helps me all the time yes I get that and I appreciate that. But I don’t like the way how she puts things her drinking etc.

I genuinely don’t know what my future will be like anymore. It’s depressing

JD_INCINERATOR

You have to be around good people who care about you, that's how you feel better and find your way out of depression. There's Andy's Man Club, which I thoroughly recommend if you live in the UK because you'll be with people who genuinely care and there's a great sense of brotherhood about it. I've been to AMC since September 2023 and have found it to be an extremely positive influence on my life.

Like you I'm usually alone and sometimes I don't feel I'm listened to, but then I go out and do meaningful activities and work, and then I feel as though I have some sense of being in life. Take a chance to get to know people, speak up and don't just think everybody doesn't care because there are many who do. You have to find your place in order to feel belonging, and I'm sure you can if you delve into your interests and find people who enjoy what you enjoy.

Littlefatfriend

To quote the song, Ryleyyg "You always hurt the ones you love...".

In my experience a key reason for that is because living with other people can sometimes be difficult. Particularly as culture now tells us we can have it all.

If both sides of any disagreement are willing to be reasonable, there'll probably be a comfortable place somewhere in the middle.

Do you think your mum knows how much this is upsetting you? Have you tried calmly explaining that to her? Trying to work it out between you both/all? I'm not asking for details, these are just suggestions.

My folks didn't exactly demand but certainly expected I would do various things/behave certain ways whilst I lived in their house. As you're clearly aware, the alternative to that can be expensive and that's just how living with other people is.

Speaking"out" sounds at least a little confrontational and negotiations always work best if they're done carefully and rationally. I appreciate that can seem difficult in situations where people are emotionally invested, but negotiation is what works best. Both "sides" explaining their reasoning and working out where they can agree.

I've been effectively nocturnal for over 30 years, it's never done me any harm I'm aware of. I worked in entertainment and with the internet, then education and advocacy. That should be up to you if you're not waking other people up etc.

Do you have a social worker with whom you could discuss finding somewhere else to live? If not I encourage you to get one, and lots of other sources of information are available. Why not at least explore moving out? It's probably unlikely to happen quickly, accessible housing can be hard to find. But I'm sure it will exist.

University made that decision for me 31 years ago and I've never regretted it.

Good luck whatever you choose to do

😺