I'm so tired

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Jye

I've been feeling very down recently, someone advised I could post here. I'm a mum of two disabled kids and I just feel like I'm at breaking point. Every little bump in the road is sending me over the edge. I don't feel like I can talk about it because compared to others my life is good, but I feel like I'm on call 24/7. If I'm not doing it, it's not getting done. I'm provider of every need, physical and emotional and I'm just tired. Any advice on how to get through, life just feels like a constant wait for either disaster or sleep. At least when I'm asleep I'm not thinking anymore. I cant keep doing this, please, if anyone has any advice I'd be so grateful.

Thank you

older01

@Jye

Hi! Don’t apologise for feeling drained as a mum and carer. Both of those roles are demanding enough, so combining them must be absolutely shattering.

I don’t know if you have registered with your GP as an unpaid carer or not, but if you haven’t, then please do. There is someone in every GP surgery specifically for carers. They are there to help you in any way they can. They can signpost you to other groups of people in similar situations locally, and you would be surprised at how many people there are. You are unique to you. There’s no comparisons. There’s also no judgement. You are doing a great job! Don’t let anyone tell you differently. I was a carer to my late husband for years before he passed away, and I recognise that need for a helping hand. Even a short carers break could make the world of difference when you’re exhausted. They don’t offer very much - £250 every two years for a short break, but I would grab it if I were you. The chance of hope does help you to sleep. The thought that someone might actually help you takes that anguish away from the restless thoughts. I recommend starting with your GP and telling them what you were brave enough to share here, and I wish you happiness and hope. Sending you hugs 🤗