Neighbour threatening me calling me a benefit cheat

Marbles

I live next door to an alcoholic, drug taking abusine women. For years I'm had trouble with her on and off lime others and she's attacked me. I'm 62 and had a number of health issues my spine is terrible damaged top and bottom l have compression and stenosis in neck effecting my arm hand, lower is aiat from my tail to c5 affecting my walking balance e standing up.

AAbout 6 weeks ago Rob who's done some odd jobs me. One of her panels her responsibility was broken so l asked her if l cos repla e it with one of mine it was too short so l had to pay for a concert plint costing 8 or 9 pounds. Whilst talking to her she was telling me in her corner is another fence issue but they can't get it out as its wedge on my side.. bs. I said when Rob comes l send him round not happy with that she said can you get him to just replace it. So she wanted me to pay for that as well

I just left. Rob came did the job original I've had no thank you. But she was with her son sneering at me. But she's a very unhappy twisted jealous individual. She's about 3/4 yrs younger than me. Worked 14 hours a week for the job centre. She was due to be fired due to her behaviour, turning up drunk taking time off and a whole host of other things she was on her final warning and their were other behavioral issues raised.

SShe retired at 51 took her private pension where it was reduced never worked since. Spent her days in her pj's drinking playing games or doing other stuff over the years I've had issues with her regarding her drinking and behaviour and she's attacked me a number if times. And others l believe her criminal ex bf

II've got a lit of spinal damage mire has been discovered lately my surgeon wants to operate its a very risky op its in my neck l ciuld die have a heart attack be paralysed and a whole host of issues.. it also affects my walking standing right hand and arm. Its abot of a mess I've had an emotional rollacoster and it's been very scary. If l have an accident or fall I could be paralysed or die.

So a lit going on. I've got a Gardener I've had a young guy doing some stuff for me as l can't do stuff like l used to. I do try and Potter around even tho I'm in pain l do too much I pay the price l can some times have days l can't walk

ThThe neighbour destroyed are joining open plan garden with her them ex con boyfriend she put printed concrete down badly. And it's now two foot lower.

I planted fern and 14 ish yrs later I've got a nice front garden. I would often trim the ferns and pushes on her side. And only once has she asked to trim back the Japanese honey suckle.

ThThis yr l tried it back in March or April l can't remember and my gardening Mt neighbour Mark has tried back tbe honey suckle and other stuff. I've cut back the other plants where l can and if l can I wear a had brace.

TToday I saw her bobbing up and down at the hedge so l asked are you trimming it bk to which she replied well no one else has! I said I've had issues with this arm I've just had a cortisone injection in the joint in my thumb. On Wed.

SSo Still in pain. My right arm is weak due rocthe compression and stenosis.

Well she started screaming at me your just a THEIF and a BENEFIT FRAUDSTER nothing wrong with your arm your a liar! She carried on so l exited my gardwn and went in hers she was screaming as loud as she coould l might add. What are you claiming dla l said what's that oh so it's pip. I said not sure what your talking about and l certainly don't have to justify myself. She then said you get your bins emptied and you were putting one if tbe neighbours back I'd been using it the bin men dumped it and Wendy is looking after her sick sister l also paid for it to be privately emptied.

I said your point well your just a liar and a benefit fraudster! She picked up some shears and barged into me shoving me. Lucky l was able to maintain my balance ir I'd have fallen on a concrete path ir wall. I told her not to put her hands on me again but she didn't move and l pushed her away from me she lunged at me with tbe shears missing me by about two inches. She then started calling me a sl#g and other names told me to get off her drive l said you can maintain the ferns on your side as it's not my responsibility and you've never er done anything she accusedvme of not doing anything for two yrs which was a lie she also said " l can't afford to get pll in to do my garden" she 38 yr old weird son lives with her. They have a very odd relationship!

AAs I walked back to my garden she was screaming abuse at me calling me a benefit fraudster theif and other nasty comments. So l put her right thw only fraudster is her when her son now 38 was born he had cerebral palsy effected his legs he was lucky. She had a disable car I never saw him in. She had 4 holidays a yr! Never took her kids away her ex hubby did all that. She spent the money on booze cigs and drugs out every weekend end clubbing it clothes etc. A bf who was married she booked two holidays he never turned up. Tbw list goes on. She also put money away and was very comfortable. Her ex had the kids mostly at the weekend so she was free to carry on with her very free life style different man every night.

I have distanced myself from her as she just causes trouble. She's attacked me a couple of times in the past her ex con bf stopped her when she's grabbed me and her daughter when she slammed me into her front door dragged me into her house leaving bruses on my chest and arm attacked me on the way out of her house after l carved her kids down her daughter crying trying to get her mother of me. Me calming her down and saying she's gonna go to bed now. She jumped me from behind. I didn't report that either.

Their has been too many issues to list and I'm sure many with others her married bf she used to go round to his home at 2or 3 in the morning attack his wife I'm not sure if the police were involved.

Other neighbours and no doubt other issues l don't know about. She's spent her life living off other ppl with a sence if entitlement often trying to feeeload of them.

SShe was very malicious and seemed to take some joy in thinking she coould threaten me or defame me. No doubt she has or will report me. I have nothing to hide and her comments are just malicious and abusive.

II'm going to press charges against her. I should have done it years ago but l often thought of her children and I was very close to her daughter. She often spent time with me l would play with her at the weekends and we would watch TV. She once said l wish you were my mum it chocked me as how awful her mother was having no time but looking at the end of a bottle.

Even as an adult she has always been respectful and she's now a mum herself of a beautiful child. Her hubby well he just cares at me lume her son clearly taking his mother in laws side and clearly believing her bs what's funny she didn't want her daughter to marry him as she said he was uneducated came from a poor family with disabilities in the family lovely women! He seemed a nice guy but she likes to gas light him.

HHer son pays all the bills as he lives with her I assume the food bill to but I'm not sure all she has to pay for is her booze cigs and any drugs she's smoking.

I think she claims pip as she has copd. She's a very bitter malicious individual and you cam see when you meet her she has some addition.

She used to do a lot of drugs with her ex con bf and was constantly violent to him. Oddly dispute waljingvin my home helping himself to stuff out of my fridge using my garden as a short cut to tbw corner shop. Taking stuff dumping stuff. He was constantly doing that to other neighbours police called for fuel filled arguments it's nice an quiet her but for 2 yrs it was lime corrie.

WWith my health issues in my plate l don't need this vile human trying to cause me grief.

I'm just waiting on the local bobbles to contact me for a full statement its been logged as assault.

II'm going to press charges if l can. The threats the violence and the defamation.

If their is any advice you can give me ld appreciate it.

II've nothing to hide and if she does report me I will inform them of recent events. I've got all my health documented. I have good days and bad days. I just think its utterly disgusting that she can get away with making lies up defaming my name and being violent towards me.

WWhen l was very poorly she did help me fill out the sick form tbh l was so ill l couldnt stand up or keep food down l had sepsis and a number if my organs are perm damaged. It was only when l could walk for a number of weeks few years later that they discovered all this damage to my spine.

WWhat's really angering me out of pure spire she wants to cause me as much trouble as possible. Because she thinks because l pay a Gardener and a young lad who wanted some pocket money to do chopping down that I'm rolling in it.

And her envy jealousy and twisted nature thinks ots OK to slander me and try and cause as much trouble as possible.

SShe has always been malicious she treated her own mother appallingly. I lost mine when l was very young she would call her said she was lying about her health she was awful to her. Her mum was a lovely women.

So any advice would be appreciated don't we live in a very sick world. But I'm going to press charges if l can for malicious coms and assault.. should have done it years ago. All because l didn't cut her ferns back sooner. .To be honest they don't look too bad not unsightly so how she could say they haven't been touched for two yrs. Also she has never thanked me for actually maintaining her side of the garden! Not once.

AAfter the altercation she hardly did anything and packed up her stuff .

I originally intended to offer her my hedge cutters but l won't be mainting it again. Honestly the entitlement of this vile women. Most ppl with a plant over hanging don't do it. But this is the type of thing am dealing with she's vile.

II'm still in a state of shock to be honest the disgusting things she said I've voice logged it so l don't forget

Sorry for the long post and thank you in advance its hard to fathom someone being that jealous malicious and with evil intent but I'm afraid she it rotten to the core.

You hear about ppl doing theE thind I've nothing to hide but it's thw added stress on top of my health issues. Unlike her I've never defrauded or been morally bankrupt. Her own issues are souly down to her behaviour her ex hubby no longer speaks to her he was a nice guy. She rinced him had him on a piece of string hos family was nice didn't lime her. Her mum sadly passed she was a lovely women l found but she was so unkind to her.

SSje was jealous l hit it off with her mum. Weird.

Anyway thank you for reading this I'd appreciate any advice you may have to give.

Kind regards A x

MW123

@Marbles

Good morning Marbles, firstly I would like to say welcome to the community.

I am really sorry to hear what you have been going through, it sounds incredibly stressful. No one should feel unsafe or be subjected to that kind of behaviour at all, let alone on their own property. You have clearly dealt with a lot over the years, and it’s completely understandable that this has taken a toll on you both emotionally and physically.

Everyone has the right to feel safe and secure always, but even more so in their home and on their property. If you do decide to report the incident, you would be well within your rights to do so. Sometimes taking that step sends a clear message that this kind of behaviour will not be tolerated.

Catherine21

Gosh one person can cause so much grief and anguish I feel for you my neighbours have had disputes for along time but it go t to the point that the name calling by father and son to my other neighbour became sinister accusing him of awful things all untrue he got police involved he had witness other neighbours seen so they have been put on a course of how your actions effect others or something like that yes best way forward call police she needs to be put in her place and you deserve peace keep a diary and get a ring camera put up can get cheaper versions now goodluck

Community_Scope

Hi @Marbles

Thank you for sharing all of that. It sounds like you have been dealing with an exhausting and upsetting situation for a while and that's so stressful especially while dealing with such serious health issues.

You’ve done the right thing by reporting her and you absolutely deserve to feel safe in your own home. We're going to send you an email soon so please look out for it

Wheeled_Weapon

Record her rants then report her to the Police for harassment. I'm 92.8% sure you can class it as a hate crime if you're accusing someone of faking their disabilities.

Drunks will always be drunks though, so you'll probably have to report her a lot.