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onebigvoice

I have helped some recently come through a very bad patch, and because of this I have copied a recent post from her.

read this:

I had this feeling after a 28 year relationship and everything changed at once. Even when there was so many people around it still felt lonely at times. I had 2 brain surgeries, lost my job after 28 years and was homeless. A year one and my life is exactly how it should be. Im a firm believer now that things are taken away to make space for exactly what's to come. Your exactly where you need to be at the time. Push through, it does get easier I promise. No one can say how you feel inside its different for every. Always know that your feelings are valid and let them happen, good and bad. It means you can process them. You are amazing and ive followed you since the beginning. You can do this, you are strong! Sending hugs, love and support to you

Mental issues are not always seen, yet to looking at her she was the picture of content.

Having some one to talk to as a starting point (like here) where you are not judgemental but a listening ear, that must understand what the see is not what you see, unless you have it first hand.

She has gone on like me, and helped others in similar situations having had first hand abuse and when you think you are getting some where a "trigger" starts it over again. Learn to read the person not judge the comments. Some like me don't knolw the clicky words to describe things, but it does not aleviate the pain and stress caused by comment that are "out of place" to them.

Don't be afraid to say what you feel, because this is you as you see it.

Rosie_Scope

Some wise words there @onebigvoice, thanks for sharing your friend's story with us. Sounds like you're a really good friend to her.

onebigvoice

Thank you for those kind words.

The only thing that keeps me going is that I get annoyed when people who get paid mega bucks and do not really understand there actions and how it affects everyone else down the line, to ratify the need to make cuts inorder to "make things better"

YOU DON'T HAVE TO MAKE CUTS TO MAKE THINGS BETTER, you need to understand what the goals and achievements you want, before you can formulate a better plan.

If you are designing a car and you decide to make a cost cut by altering the size of the wheels and width to save material and production costs. What do you need to know. 1. How many are being produced now.

2. What is the projected sales. 3. What as a comparision is the materials saving and production cost savings of now and the projected savings.

3. How quickly can it be installed.

4. What is the revenue savings against the cost of installation.

Sounds good?

Like our illnesses, how do you predict an unseen illness, or that projection figures of mental illness alone are on the rise, and when you look at the cost and cause, it makes you eyes water, but cannot reproduce those figures because you would be out of a job. (or your told not to)

Basic questions: Example above. Its no good making a cost cut to save Millions of pounds when the wheel is going on a 4 x 4 and is 22" inch diameter and you are going to fit 13 inch mini size wheels? It just brings up another load of problems like ground clearance, what type of terraine will the finished car be able to go over.

Our issues: By not understanding that Mental Health may be able to be fixed, without the correct building blocks of each claimant, you cannot have a one size fits all, benefit system where DISABILITY BENEFITS are paid at one rate.

We are all individuals. Yes as a starting point you can link certain disabilities, but, isn't that why we are now called Neurodiversant? Because the people that are paying the "financial help" side understand the problems. REALLY, no not really. We at Scope understand the cost of disability, so why can't the government understand the same information, that is processed by the NHS for treatment and medication without the need for Benefit cuts or making it harder to claim by altering the charters set up to help us, not hinder and application for help.

In the beginning, we had assessments done by the NHS, yet it was the government who started the change to allow outside departments run and NHS that was self supporting. If the money that is paid for an assessment to "financial help" not MEDICAL HELP was put back into the system (NHS) then all reserch would not be done through Research Charities that are looking for a cure for us. But would be done by the NHS for the NHS with the outcome to help people who are on long term sick, or have a disability that with the right support can not only be managed but help us back into the community and be paid a living wage, and not have more than what you earn taken off you in other benefits.

If the dole system was, if you don't work you get nothing, (I thought that is what they want to do) or you run courses for people while unemployed can take to increase their employability, like computer skills as everything these days are A I or on a mobile, cyber scams and how to avoid being caught out, Gardening, being seconded to the parks and garden department for those that may not have an allotment but want to learn,

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My point being that unless you understand the problem (thats why its called a problem) you can have all the surveys in the world, it won't necessarily fix anything. But it looks good on paper.