Appointee bank account dilemma

Ikonik

Our 19 year old keeps getting in trouble with police. Minor drug possession. He won't give up cannabis. I'm starting to feel like I can't deal with money anymore because he's no respect. His PIP goes in to an account in my bank and I pay all his bills and expenses. Should I have it paid directly to his account? Then the wrongdoings won't be in any way connected to me? I will still help with forms and appointments . He will very likely spend a lot more on cannabis but that's his choice ?!

Adrian_Scope

Hi @Ikonik,

Thank you for sharing what must be a very difficult situation with us. It might be worth considering having it paid directly into his account. This could help establish a sense of responsibility and independence for him, but it's important to weigh this decision carefully, especially if you have concerns about how he might manage his finances.

Have you tried speaking to him about the consequences of his choices and the importance of managing his finances responsibly? Offering support with forms and appointments is a great way to continue helping him while encouraging independence.

If you're worried about his drug use and interactions with the police, seeking advice from organisations like FRANK (0300 123 6600) can provide guidance on drug-related issues. They offer confidential support and information that might be helpful. You might also really benefit from speaking to organisations like Family Lives (0808 800 2222) who offer support to parents and carers facing challenges.