Please help

66Mustang

I don’t get why people are allowed to say things that trigger my CPTSD but when I stand up for myself I get made to feel horrible

It triggers my CPTSD really badly when people tell me I’m a bad person because I’m male (even though I have gender issues and don’t align with the male gender) but when I ask why my gender means I'm horrible people think I’m being right wing or something

I read a post yesterday on here saying that men are bad and have been feeling horrible ever since

It feels like I’m not allowed to have problems with being verbally/emotionally abused but it’s ok for people to write things that cause me to feel truly horrible for over 24 hours. Why don’t i have the same rights???

It's not just gender but that's one example

Sorry this is so badly written, I’m crying which is so stupid but I just can’t take anymore and want to be understood

I just can’t take it and don’t know why people tell me I’m so horrible

How do I make society realise I’m not a horrible person because of things I didn’t choose, like my gender or being white or middle class???

Why are people allowed to be horrible to me just because I’m part of a majority or privileged group??? I’ve never even been able to access these privileges because of my health issues

Please someone help, why am I so worthless, I just want people to not assume I'm horrible and worthlesss

Bluebell21

Hi @66Mustang You are not a horrible person. Its natural to feel hurt by something we read, but sometimes that reaction may come from how we've interpreted it rather than what the other person intended.

You are not worthless and should not feel that way about yourself.

Other members do read what you write but might not reply because they do not have an answer or because they have a different view.

Please take care of yourself.

66Mustang

Thanks @Bluebell21 for being kind

I understand what you say but I don't understand why people are allowed to tell me I'm a horrible person because of, say, being male or middle class, but I'm not allowed to do the same back to someone who is female or working class - not that I'd ever want to!!

It's the inequality - commited by the very people who think they're fighting for equality - that gets to me

rubin16

Hey, I don't think your a horrible person. You're far from it. However going round stating your from a priviledged background and middle class, while others as working class comes across as pretentious, rude and will always cause you to be alienated and attacked for it.

It shouldn't matter what background a person is from and defining classes in todays society is archaic. Just my view.

Holly_Scope

I'm so sorry that you feel this way @66Mustang. You are always so kind and supportive of others. Please know that you're very much valued here. Always bring a smile to my face, as I'm sure you do many others. I hope you feel a bit better soon. 💛

Albus_Scope

You are one of the kindest people I've had the pleasure to meet @66Mustang I know it's not a lot, but please don't let those inner voices (or outer) tell you you're a bad person, because you're not. You can just look at the outpouring of love from the community to see that.

I get it can be very infuriating what people blame x y or x characteristics for things when your part of them, but please remember they're not specifically targeting you. And it's ok to stick up for yourself.

WelshBlue

Re-iterating … you're not worthless or a horrible person. I look forward to reading and enjoying your posts on here. You come across as a likable person who's got a lot of knowledge of a lot of things. And I come across a lot of idiots on a lot of forums

Having some inner demons doesn't make you less of a person, the fact you deal with them on a daily basis … makes you one helluva person

As for being a white, middle class male … any stigma is on the person judging to carry, not for you to justify. Sadly we live in a society where so many are quick to point the finger, but not so quick to look inwards.

You my friend have always come across as someone who acknowledges who they are … faults 'n' all. Show me someone who says they're perfect, and I'll show you a liar

I'm Welsh, white and working class … and proud of it. Embrace who you are, what your roots have made you

Male - Female ? IMO Women are definitely the stronger species … emotionally and pain endurance, and I would never lift my finger in aggression unprovoked, but if one hit me or verbally abused me … they'd get both back. Make of that whatevs'

Gender is fast becoming a weapon for others to be offended by on behalf of someone else, whereas the person who should be insulted laughs it off … maybe I'm just becoming intolerant of how the world is going ?

I personally don't care what race/ creed/ religion/ gender orientation anyone is, treat me and my own right and you've got a friend for life.

Look after yourself mate and look in the mirror … " I am worth it " with feeling 😉