Hi, my name is yeliab!

yeliab
yeliab Community Member Posts: 0 Listener
in Start here and say hello

hi i am a late diagnosed neurodivergent man. this came about after a failed suicide attempt. THE DIAGNOSIS MAKES PERFECT SENSE OF MY LIFE WITH ITS FAILED RELATIONSHIPS AND EMPLOYMENTS(sorry caps clumsy)AND AS SUCH IT HAS BEEN COMFORTING TO ME. wife stillthinks im lazy feckless and uncomitted, which is not ideal

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  • Mary_Scope
    Mary_Scope Posts: 6,299 Scope online community team

    Hi @yeliab and a warm welcome to the community from me!

    Thank you for sharing a bit of your story with us, it sounds like you have been a lot.

    It's lovely to have you here and I hope you find the community to be a safe and supportive space😄

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 9,900 Scope online community team

    Welcome to the community @yeliab ☺️ A diagnosis can really make a difference to how you view yourself.

    Sorry to hear your wife still thinks of you like that, I hope she's able to come around to what it means for you.

    Hope you'll enjoy your time on the community

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,468 Championing
    edited September 2025

    Hi yeliab and welcome to Scope 🤗

    I'm late-diagnosed and female but remember feeling shock, distress and anger when I got it - thankfully, I live alone and had the space to process this without judgement (I've often wondered whether an earlier diagnosis would have helped my husband understand me better before divorcing me and I don't believe it would have).

    I'm glad to hear you describe the diagnosis as comforting. Mine felt like a gift but it didn't seem to mean anything to people when I told them my good news! That really surprised me, too. Getting to know yourself again won't happen overnight but you can learn about autism and develop new coping strategies with help from autistic members here.

    Once you've been on the forum a while you'll be able to edit posts but in the meantime, you can ask the Scope team to change or delete text. Ask questions and join in any threads which interest you 😊

  • yeliab
    yeliab Community Member Posts: 0 Listener

    thanks for your friendly.reply whatthe… i was beggining to wonder if the truth really wasout there. isnt it shocking and upsetting when people around you…whove known and loved you for years just dont get it. i thought that key people around me would find it usefull, even comforting, to know that the unusual narartive of my life was explicable from the right perspective. rather they were keen for me to get a formal assesment..almost as if it was important that i was neurodivergent " enough "to qualify. what , to me, makes it strangest of all is that…prior to my tentative diagnosis thepressure of accumulated failure drove me to the verge of suicide..did they want me to go back to not having the diagnosis reversed, considering the bad place that took me to.whatthe s'both sad and slightly baffling to feelmthat a diagnosis would not have helped in your marriage…sadly not helping in mine either.to mary and rosie scope, thank you for your kind and welcoming comments…im a little digitally illiterate and have just found them.again, thanks to all

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