Something to keep us going...

SmellyBin
SmellyBin Online Community Member Posts: 65 Contributor

When things are difficult or threaten to overwhelm you, when you are suffering... what quote, mantra, wise words or perhaps something completely different keeps you from ruminating? If you feel you might lose yourself in a negative spiral, what do you hang on to? What is it that you need for relief?

It could be something from a movie or book (fiction or non-fiction) or perhaps a highlight that improved your mood. And I am guessing it might vary, different things to soothe yourself in different situations or moments? What might work today, might not be what you need the next?

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  • SmellyBin
    SmellyBin Online Community Member Posts: 65 Contributor

    “You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”

    The internet is full of quotes by Brene Brown, but this is one that stuck with me from when I first came across it. I think it was something Miranda Hart shared on IG?

  • Zippy1983
    Zippy1983 Online Community Member Posts: 112 Empowering
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    I find solace in my Buddhist Philosophy, I’ve been a practicing Buddhist for the last 15 years. With there being no Buddhist Centre here in Derby, I do my own meditation each morning and at night using guided session on Apple Fitness.

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  • Kookee
    Kookee Online Community Member Posts: 565 Empowering

    Great post!

    I am what I am and that is enough.

    The divine is making it happen.

    I try and challenge negative thoughts such as ‘I’m lazy’, ‘I should be doing more’, I’m not strong enough’ etc. by asking where these beliefs are coming from. I mostly find they’re from a society that is fuelled by consumerism and doesn’t believe in disability, kindness, compassion, living life simply and authentically…

  • SmellyBin
    SmellyBin Online Community Member Posts: 65 Contributor

    Cool, @Zippy1983 ! You sound very dedicated, good for you.

    I see myself as a bodhisattva, someone who is still learning. This means I also get it wrong from time to time, such as thinking when seeing your inspiring pics 'I should be able to do this.' Because of course, Buddhism is about being and kindness, so very gently I remind myself of a disclaimer: it is not easy. 

    Oh, and I found the other thread about meditation here on this forum. Gonna keep an eye on that as well. Thanks for sharing :)

    @Kookee said: 'I mostly find they’re from a society that is fuelled by consumerism and doesn’t believe in disability, kindness, compassion, living life simply and authentically…' 

    Yeah, or perhaps the easy way of kindness, you know? The light version, but not when it becomes tough on others. I feel very rejected by society in general and my family specifically. Yet, they are not bad people. It would be easier if they were, if things were black and white, just to comprehend what is going on.

    Old patterns are hard to get rid of, I am so glad we are able to talk about these things here. Like I said… learning - admittedly with a sigh. Wouldn't it be nice to have some sort of enlightenment instead of always having to sit with what is, things that arise… I know that sometimes just telling myself 'this life is hard' is kindness to myself.

  • Chris75_
    Chris75_ Online Community Member Posts: 3,829 Championing
    edited November 16
  • Kookee
    Kookee Online Community Member Posts: 565 Empowering

    I totally agree. It’s not black and white. I don’t see society, people, as inherently bad or purposefully cruel, it’s just the way things are and we’re all evolving at some level.

    And yes, life is hard, and seeing and admitting that is definitely kind and a strength in itself.

  • SmellyBin
    SmellyBin Online Community Member Posts: 65 Contributor
  • Chris75_
    Chris75_ Online Community Member Posts: 3,829 Championing
    edited November 16

    The guy with the microphone is the top ISKON devotee in the UK I think.

  • SmellyBin
    SmellyBin Online Community Member Posts: 65 Contributor

    @Kookee Not giving up on humanity, because being connected is perhaps the only way… My suffering is not that different from someone else, it is our shared human experience, I think we need to find ourselves as a collective again.

    This is what Tara Brach says:

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  • Kookee
    Kookee Online Community Member Posts: 565 Empowering

    Exactly this. My negative thought patterns aren’t personal, they’re not exclusive to me and people are going through so much worse so I am grateful for my life. We’re all interconnected and love and compassion for myself is the first step in fostering the same with others.

    Thanks for the Tara Brach excerpt!

  • Kookee
    Kookee Online Community Member Posts: 565 Empowering
  • Chris75_
    Chris75_ Online Community Member Posts: 3,829 Championing

    You may not believe it, but I wish I could believe in their cause. They seem so happy.

  • Kookee
    Kookee Online Community Member Posts: 565 Empowering
    edited November 16

    @Chris75_I believe it. It’s maybe akin to your rave experiences of old and that desire to close your eyes, raise your hands up and feel that love and unity through music once again 😉

  • Kimi87
    Kimi87 Online Community Member Posts: 7,650 Championing
    edited November 16

    Listening to music gets me through some really hard times. It helps lift my mood.

  • SmellyBin
    SmellyBin Online Community Member Posts: 65 Contributor

    About Tara Brach's Radical Compassion: if anyone feels like reading this together, please say so. I've already mentioned this in the book thread, so forgive me for repeating myself... it is just that it is about releasing old, hurtful habits and this is something most of us are dealing with.

    For those who are celebrating something in December, this would be a wonderful gift, methinks.

    I am rather slow yet purposefully, only a few pages a day. I got it ten days ago and so far made it to page 25, because I do a few pages a day and let it rest. Re-read the next or some days later.

    Is anyone else reading books around this subject? Appreciating yourself, dealing with difficult circumstances and emotions? Embracing the rest of the world? Or something similar when it comes to Buddhism or simply mindfulness?

  • SmellyBin
    SmellyBin Online Community Member Posts: 65 Contributor
    edited November 17

    'You don't have to earn your worth. You are enough.' Michael Gaylon

  • Chris75_
    Chris75_ Online Community Member Posts: 3,829 Championing

    Just heard about Sydney Devine being flooded out of his final resting place. I hope he would have seen the funny side of it. At least he is making headlines again…

  • SmellyBin
    SmellyBin Online Community Member Posts: 65 Contributor

    'You don't have to be more of this or less of that…' Padma Gordon

  • Kookee
    Kookee Online Community Member Posts: 565 Empowering

    Be here now.