Autism is not caused by "bad parenting"

Biblioklept

I saw some comments on here that hinted to people thinking 'poor parenting' causes neurodiversity and I shouldn't need to say this but I will: 'bad' parenting does not cause neurodiversity.

Threats, punishment and fear won't change neurodiversity.

Neurodiversity is not about a child 'being in charge'

There are so many neurodiverse members on here and I can GUARANTEE we've all had very different upbringings, some with very crazy strict parents, some with laid back parents, some negligent, some over-bearing, and everything in between.

Sensory processing differences ARE NOT BAD BEHAVIOUR!!

Communications differences ARE NOT BAD BEHAVIOUR!!!!

They can not be 'fixed' by being stricter. They can not be changed by shouting louder. They are not changed by electric shock, bleaching, poisoning or any of the many ways they've tried to 'cure' autism since the early 1900s.

Nightcity

A huge thanks for posting this!

66Mustang

I don't want to imagine how you feel @Biblioklept after reading stuff about that

To me this just goes without saying and anyone suggesting these accusations can safely be ignored without a second thought … however I know how easy that is to say compared to actually do!!!

As someone who is guilty of taking sweeping comments very much to heart I just wish I could reassure you in the same way you always reassured me when I get distressed by sweeping/invalidating comments

Biblioklept

Thank you @Nightcity ❤️I just felt like it needed saying

I don't know why people can't understand that if electric shocks, torture and all other 'treatments' don't "cure" or "fix" autism, why do they think parents being stricter will? 🙄

Aww thank you @66Mustang ❤️

I didn't take them personally or to heart, but I hate the unjustness and ignorance of it. It feels so unfair for people to blame parents for kids having disabilities.

Of course parenting styles will have an impact on outcomes for all children, neurodiverse or not, but so does society, media, schooling, and so on.

The ignorance of telling parents of neurodiverse children to just be stricter, really gets to me. It's blaming parents and ignoring that both ADHD and autism have neurobiological differences in brain structure and function. But no, no, you just need to be mean or stricter to 'fix' us. 😒 enough grumbling from me though!! 😅