Sneaky Social Worker

MrHappy

Nearly 20yrs ago i had terrible experiences with my local Mental Health services - i felt thoroughly abused by that system). I then made a promise to myself that i would never again engage with mental health services as long as i had a breathe in my body and thus far i have honoured that promise.

6 months ago my social worker + carers repeatedly tried to bring mental health services back into my life. My response was to fire them all.

Social services then resorted to getting Police/Ambulance to repeatedly break my door down because i had stopped responding to knocks on my door from any of them plus i had blocked all social services and care agency numbers on my telephone.

Friday 28th Nov (the day i successfully migrated to UC) a new social worker called Charity attended my home but she didn't get into my home either but we did have a brief conversation on the intercom. She introduced herself as my NEW social worker and then informed me that she was a senior social worker. She then proceeded to inform me that we should start all over again with her as my new social worker then she told me they will no longer try to bring mental health services back in to my life. She then went on to add she can arrange a few weeks in respite care from Monday if i agreed? I congratulated her on being a senior social worker then i told her to go away because come hell or high water she isn't coming in. Charity was very nice but i'm also pretty sure her offer of a few weeks in respite or nursing care was just a sneaky attempt to have me assessed by mental health services.

Later that afternoon my GP called me (i have been very lucky because my GP has been awesome for many years), in that call he told me that my NEW social worker Charity has been asking for access to my medical records in particular my mental health records. I was very clear - my health records are not to be shared under any circumstances with Adult Social Care.

What happens next? my best guess is that come Monday (tomorrow) My newly appointed social worker 'Charity' will yet again try to convince me to let her in or she will arrange for the Police and paramedics to break my door down again.

Do i have mental health problems? probably yes however i believe i am fully compos mentos (of sane mind) at this time. The only reason i have been accepting social workers and carers in my life is because of my physical illnesses: Sleep Apnea, heart disease, diabetes, COPD, slight learning disabilities, Arthritis, oh and as of October 2025 there's a 3cm growth in my right lung. Social services have changed the goal posts by attempting to bring mental health services into my life and for that reason my relationship with them has now permanently ended.

I apologise for my very long post - i'll definitely try to make my future posts much shorter.

rubin16

I see it as:

Are you a danger to yourself?

Are you a danger to others?

if no to both, then you have every right to refuse to see them and they should leave you alone if you do not want help from them.

MrHappy

Hi Rubin16

I am housebound which means i do not represent a danger to others also i have zero plans to self harm.

MrHappy

Hi Rubin16

I am housebound so i do not represent a danger to anyone else furthermore i have zero plans to self harm.

Santosha12

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/140270/sneaky-social-worker

Hi MrHappy, I'm so sorry that you've gone through all of this. Trust is very hard to rebuild once you feel it has been abused.

Two thoughts come to my mind.

One, how are you coping without carers over the last six months. Could you still benefit from the assistance of (trusted) carers? Please do not suffer alone.

The second thing is it sounds like you've had a good relationship with your GP for a long time.

I would suggest/? urge you to have a conversation with your GP, if you're comfortable with that. 1. To check/clarify they have not released your medical records to Adult Social Services or anybody else, against your express wishes.

And 2. If you feel you would still benefit from the support of carers, you could explore that option with your GP (a different company, one that you may feel able to build trust in and a good rapport with, that may be of benefit in your circumstances).

Please do not feel you have to cut short your posts on here. It's as long as it takes.

Do you have any family who can advocate for you/on your behalf if you do not feel up to it? If not, there are possibly Advocates if you want one.

I hope you're receiving whatever help you need to manage the physical issues you've mentioned (are you under the care of your local Integrated Respiratory Team for instance, for your COPD).

I'm not trying to overwhelm you with so many questions. They're more for you to consider for yourself. You deserve the care that you feel you need, and respect for the decisions that you make for yourself

Please come back on here if you feel it might help you. We can help direct you to other services if you feel you want that.

Take very good care and my very warmest wishes to you.

MrHappy

Hi Santosha,

Everything becomes more difficult without carers. Even very basic tasks like making a cup of tea is a challenge. I also have a beard now which is a first for me because shaving is difficult.

Yes i am super fortunate to have a truly wonderful GP.

No family and no friends unfortunately but on balance i am ok being a loner/recluse.

Btw, i loved reading your post Santosha thank you.

Zipz

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/140270/sneaky-social-worker

I doubt that either paramedics or the police would be pleased to be called to break in to the home of somebody in sound mind. Don't let Charity in but please open the door to paramedics and/or police and they'll see you don't need their input.

I suggest you write an eloquent letter to Social Services with a cc to your amazing GP.

Santosha12

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1087306#Comment_1087306

You are very welcome MrHappy. It seems a rarity these days to have a really good GP, I'm so glad you do. Just know we're here for you.

MrHappy

Thank you Zipz