What does it mean when my boyfriend jokes about me cheating?

dancerxoxo96
dancerxoxo96 Community Member Posts: 24 Listener
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I cheated on him so many times he got mad and now months later he jokes about me cheating on him and when I’m with him he says cheater! Lol and smiles and laughs and says cheating girlfriend!! He says this quite a lot and and also said yesterday I had a girl over and joked around with me saying I had another girl over last night and called me a different girl name during sex and he smiled. What does it mean when he does this and is this a red flag? He also called me a different girls name as a joke. He said he was joking around with me. Just to add

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  • Emilee
    Emilee Community Member Posts: 529 Pioneering

    I would say you cheating on him is a much larger red flag then him trying to joke about it. He is probably hurt and trying to put on a front.

    Why are you with someone if you want to cheat on them?

  • WelshBlue
    WelshBlue Community Member Posts: 1,143 Championing

    He's being passive aggressive. Masking the hurt he feels.

    Is this a relationship either of you need … even want ?

    Not for anyone here to judge, but it sounds like there's a lot of issues here.

    Also questions you've got to ask yourself … such as why you do it

    In the grand scheme of life I think your BF is acting very mildly compared to how a lot of men I know would react. There would be a choice of doors to leave from (unless it's a flat …)

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Community Member Posts: 2,980 Trailblazing

    I agree with what has already been said @dancerxoxo96 if you cheat a lot on your boyfriend why are you together?

    I can honestly say if someone cheated on me they would only do it once and the relationship would be over.

    How would you feel if your boyfriend cheated on you?

  • onmylonesome
    onmylonesome Community Member Posts: 874 Pioneering
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1123281#Comment_1123281

    Exactly this!!

  • ColonelBlink
    ColonelBlink Community Member Posts: 681 Pioneering
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/146006/what-does-it-mean-when-my-boyfriend-jokes-about-me-cheating

    Hang on a minute, you've got another open thread saying nobody will sleep with you?

  • WelshBlue
    WelshBlue Community Member Posts: 1,143 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1123289#Comment_1123289

    Maybe they're a fast learner … but very sus'

  • SheffieldMan1976
    SheffieldMan1976 Posts: 1,685 Connected

    You shouldn't have cheated but we'll put that to one side for now, in his own way he's telling you he's a bit cross with you (to put it politely).

  • luvpink
    luvpink Community Member Posts: 4,562 Championing

    @Bluebell21

    I agree with you.

    I left a relationship once because he cheated on me.

    The minute I found out, I walked out the door never to return.

    I know my worth and cheating is something I will not tolerate.

    If you are in a mutually agreeable 'open relationship' I feel to be treated with such disrespect is bound to be extremely hurtful and lead to mistrust and possibly insecurity.

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