Sexual confidence building and foreplay suggestions — Scope | Disability forum
Find out how to let us know if you're concerned about another member's safety.

Sexual confidence building and foreplay suggestions

Dizzydoodah Member Posts: 6 Listener
I've recently started dating a guy with, what would be considered the more severe end of the spectrum, CP. He also has dysarthria. Our first date was really fun and I find him great fun and super cute! I'm not ashamed to say I asked him back for 'afters'!
He told me that he was inexperienced and it had been a few years since he had sex so was understandably quite nervous, a few drinks helped us both a bit!
Due to his CP we stuck to me on top. We didn't really go into foreplay on me that night, it wasn't really necessary as I found him very attractive. I think he'd like too though. My question is how to go about it? He has some control over his arms/hands but does shake a bit (nerves probably didn't help!) I want to give him confidence in this to feel more involved and masculine during sex. I know it's a tricky question as everyone's affected in different ways.


  • Richard_Scope
    Richard_Scope Posts: 2,946

    Scope community team

    Hi, what a good question. Speaking from experience of my younger days, nerves will play a big part in exacerbating his CP. I have found that patience and a sense of humour helps a lot with the confidence to try positions and things.
    Specialist Information Officer and Cerebral Palsy Programme Lead

    'Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.

    Want to tell us about your experience in the community? Talk to our chatbot and let us know. 
  • Dizzydoodah
    Dizzydoodah Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Yes it's all experimenting and having a giggle. I've found there's lots of articles Etc on sex and CP but it's all focussed on women with CP. There's nothing I could find for men with CP, very frustrating.
  • VickyS
    VickyS Member Posts: 129 Connected
    Enhance the UK ( has some good sex and relationship info on their website. It's not CP specific but it might be worth a look.
    I find that a good sense of humor can solve a lot of problems!
    Also good luck with your new relationship!
    Vicky xx


Complete our feedback form and tell us how we can make the community better.