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Anyone here locked out of love life because of disabilities?
Hi, Fm here again. I know this can be a very emotive subject but it's one that needs dealing with. Is there anyone here who is, or feels they are locked out of all love life because of severe disability? I generally find that if you want or need someone to love then you're expected to fulfil a great long list of criteria like this: first you're expected to be fully "sociable", i.e., you must be able to like what "everyone else" likes and fit into a "social" environment like a rowdy restaurant or a pub etc., or a cinema, you must like alcohol and all the rowdy places that serve it, you must like dogs, you must have great prospects, i.e., must have top qualifications and a top job of some kind, you must like baking heat and be able to go on holiday to frying hot climates, you must like rowdy partying, you must be able to travel all over the place and like it, you must be able to live with someone, you must be able to reproduce easily and safely and produce healthy kids, you must be able to be a parent, if you can't reproduce then you must be able to adopt or foster etc., you must be able to share just about anything like watching TV, you must be able to live just about anywhere no problem, you must be able to get on with everyday life without appalling disruption like I have, you must be a really happy type with no serious problems like I have etc., the list goes on and on. Well EXCUSE ME! I can't meet ANY of that criteria! Far too many expect far too much! This is the kind of situation I find myself in and I have loads of real love to give and plenty of real serious affection but I have to keep it all bottled up which is not natural and not healthy either. Dating sites are no use to me for the reasons stated above and I generally find that they're far too elitist anyway and there seems to be only elite professional classes that use them. There is never anyone anywhere near even remotely suitable for me at all. Even on "disabled" dating sites you're still expected to have a right rip-roaring joyride life which I certainly don't, it could hardly be more the total opposite. And the disabled dating sites are all too often just run by big companies who only do the disabled service as a side line along with several other categories. Anyone else got anything like similar experience? I've been needing someone since I was about 14 and I've been waiting about 40 years now and the company of a nice friendly and understanding woman at my level is the only thing in this world that ever makes me feel good but so far I've only had the odd conversation and the odd hug and then they disappear for good. I can't possibly offer any sex either as I absolutely mustn't risk getting anyone pregnant with all the dreadful things I'm infected with and I don't mean things like aids or hiv, no, I mean all the appalling disabilities and disorders I've got which are all inherited from an unfit parent and as we all know contraception doesn't always work. Fm.
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