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How do you feel about "NORMAL" people?

Dose it make you angry that other people were born normal but you were born with a disability?I used to go to a facility for "Care In The Community" mental patients,a law student volunteered to work there one summer,she was in a wheel chair,she was born a cripple,I saw an idiot in a wheel chair on telly a couple of days ago,he was born normal,but he was doing stupid stunts on a B.M.X. bike like you see on You've Been Framed and he crippled himself,he's got no one but himself to blame,but,Amy, was born a cripple,I asked her if she felt bitter other people could walk and she couldn't,'t,she said she thought walking was "over rated", she was quite happy in her wheelchair,I feel angry,I hate life,I hate being I'll,and people hate me,everybody who has a job hates people on benefit,they resent paying tax,The Daily Mail tells them we're all fairing it because benefits are so generous you're better off not working and the brain dead scum who read The Daily Mail believe this,it's especially easy to belive those of us with mental illnesses ate fakeing it as we look so normal,everybody thinks I'm scum because they all read The Daily Mail and believe that crasp they write.The owner of The Daily Mail is a millionair,millionairs want people to hate the disabled so we'll abolish the N.H.S. and the Welfare State so they can all have massive tax cuts to spend on super yachets and Zonda ZX sports cars.I hate rich people,I wish the Soviet Union had won the Cold War,I'd love to see millionaires rounded up and shipped off to the Gulag for " re-eucation".
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There's a great campaign called the Stop Funding Hate campaign - which is taking on "the divisive hate campaigns of the Sun, Daily Mail and Daily Express by persuading advertisers to pull their support."
They've made some great progress - check them out on Facebook.
I guess I am partly to blame for my disability, running 10 miles a day when I was younger and the job I did played a part in the demise of my mobility and contributed towards me being now reliant on a wheelchair!
Aren't disabled people judged enough without there being a split in disability between those born disabled and those that became disabled later in life?
Maybe it could be harder for those people as they have to make the adjustment of going from able bodied or normal as you say (what is normal?) to coping with disability?
I think that this is equally as offensive as some of the everyday comments that people face!
I found going to Alanon really helped. It is really humbling to find out how many people suffer in so many different ways, it helped me have a different perspective and deeper understanding that you can't change others, you can only change yourself. I had a few pity parties about that myself, but there is a surprising relief in eventually coming to terms with it.
They say that being angry with some-one gives them power over you - as true as that is, I still give some very undeserving people power over me - my bad!
No-one wins in the blame game, least of all the initiator. I love cliches, not least because there is always a direct opposite which is as equally valid.
Thank you Zec Richardson - I like your post. Disability shouldn't divide us. I think having a disability later in life has different challenges, but it is neither harder nor easier, we all need to help each other.
As Monty Python says, Always Look on the Bright Side of Life - when you do try to find solutions to your problems, you can meet the most wonderful people. Finding the treasures in people makes life worthwhile for me, and I think that's what we all want, some-one to find the treasures in us. I am really sorry that you are hurting JGM, but even the most arrogant of people are just one hit by a bus from a wheelchair themselves - and I feel very compassionate about how little they should feel for their own worthiness for assistance and tolerance should it unfortunately happen to them.
I am sorry if this comes across as condescending, another of my faults, but I really believe anger is a really powerful force which can be redirected and used for the good. I always felt betrayed that no-one told me that there were techniques that can help you deal with it constructively. It is a normal reaction, and everyone has to come to terms with it. I really empathize with the anger, and respect your right to deal with it in your own way. But I feel better when I find something good, and your post has reminded me to look at some simmering issues of my own. Maybe you can be generous enough to find something that helps you in my blurb.
Someone treats us unfairly and we spend hours or days sometimes thinking about it and the person who caused this hurt is most probably not even thinking about the event at all.
I spent years mulling over being extremely unfairly treated by a priest (it's okay not sexually) and my anger and replaying it in my head did nothing but make me feel worse. Luckily I did move on and I now don't let people's words hurt, what they say isn't my problem, people can only hurt me if I allow their words to hurt me!
Rather than go through everything word by word and risking being removed from the site for disagreeing with most statements, my only comment will be......
@Fundamentalist As difficult as you may find it. Maybe try and be nice instead of nasty, and not as judgemental as you claim others are. If you treat others with respect, you DO get respect back....eventually.
All the hurt, anger and animosity you seem to have is doing nobody and good, least of all you.
When people say nasty things to me, I smile and say "I'm sorry you feel that way"
I feel so much better than when I would get angry and anyway smiling at them confuses the hell out if them!
You have only one body, decrepit or otherwise. You cannot go to war against it.
I got cancer at 40 and the treatment was a thousand times worse than the disease in my case. I had to come to terms with constant pain and a body and face that I no longer recognised in the mirror.
Doctors don't like it when you tell them "Thanks for the help but I'd have been better off if you'd not saved me."
There are things unimaginably worse than everything stopping for good.
I don't resent statistically normal people nor do I believe that they should be grateful for good health.
The revulsion and discrimination of the statistically normal is a big problem but compared to just getting through another day it's a minor irritation.
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There are other posts in different threads with content much more relevant to your link, which you haven't highlighted by posting the same link. Like you say the written word isn't always read as it was written, but I have read a few recent posts today which I find in part offensive, to be honest, and on occasion quite rude. Some words come across as quite inflammatory yet no reference to community guidelines has been given, which seems rather unfair.
Please do feel free to contact us with any posts you feel there are issues with.
Sam
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Fair enough but you should at least quote the post you feel necessitates the reminder. Just putting it in the middle of a thread like you have here, doesn't help people in knowing what has been said which you feel is against guidelines. All it achieves is people wondering if you mean them, and that brings the risk people not posting 'just in case'.
Everyone has the right to their own opinion, view and way of life, but there are ways of saying things without being rude and abrupt.
It's not up to me to say which posts I feel there are issues with, as I feel they are self evident with the tones and words used in them. Plus just because I have issues with them, doesn't mean that other people will.
As one of our valued members, please do get in touch if you have issues with posts, it is the only way we can deal with problems and support all members.
I have emailed you and so please do let me know any comments or suggestions that we can discuss to make this community even better.
Thanks so much for your input,
Sam
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Thanks for the email, I'm just replying to you now hun.
I flagged it as I found it offensive and that kind of remark is not needed!
Senior online community officer
I used to feel safe knowing that if needed the hospital would be there but now I don't feel that way, I was left sat in my wheelchair for 5 hours waiting for a bed, a consultant left me naked on the examination bed thing and ssaid don't get dressed I will be back and didn't come back and when I did get a bed I was sent to x-ray and on return my bed had been given to someone else!
I hope your mum gets well soon, she needs to complain about this!!!
Take care to present your views tactfully, be aware that your views may upset and offend other members.
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Before you post, perhaps you can question, is this relevant? Is this useful? Will this upset other members?
If you post content that is upsetting to the community, the consequences can be:
I hope you can work out another way to communicate your feelings in a way that isn't upsetting to the community and we can enjoy your involvement here.
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While you may have certain political views and it may on occasion be appropriate to voice them in the context of a relevant discussion, this is not a forum for discussing political views. It is a community intended for people to share their experiences, ask questions and help each other.
Please be aware that most people come to the community for friendly discussion, rather than to hear political viewpoints - there are many other places online which are intended for this type of discussion. You are welcome in the community and we hope that you find it helpful, but please respect that others may not share your views, and that it may not be the most appropriate place to discuss them.
I understand that disability is an emotive issue and this community is a place for people to share their feelings, but it is important that everyone feels safe and supported here.
We all have to accept that not everyone will share our views and may be upset by them and so we have guidelines in place to ensure the community as a whole is a happy one, we share these guidelines with all members and aim to support everyone to use this place as an informative and helpful place.
Please feel free to contact the team direct if you need any further clarification.
Best wishes to you,
Sam
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People are telling you that your posts are annoying and your views are quite extreme and offensive to some and so that tells you that it is wrong!
This forum is for people to talk safely about disability and life with a disability, it isn't a place to discuss politics and or religion, I'm sure there are other forums that are tailored for those types of topics.
My advice would be to take what has been said on board and stop posting such strong views, the admins here are extremely tolerant but I should imagine that if you continue as you are, you may be removed and I'm sure that isn't what you want!
Also surely seeing life as a battle like you clearly do, has to be stressful and it's unnecessary, there will always be people who do not approve or look upon others with distain, but that is unfortunately life and I have found that by choosing to ignore and just not let it bother me, I feel so much better and relaxed and happier!
This discussion has run its course and I feel has now gone off topic. I'm therefore closing it to further comments.
Thanks to everyone who has contributed. If you'd like to get in touch with the Scope team privately, you can email us at [email protected]
Hope you have a good evening.