Mourning and depression

tina60

i lost my husband last year from c o p d and now i suffer with bad depression,i shake when i go out, i dont like people walking behind me and dont like crowded places, was never like this before, i also have problems with my breathing, but it seems like when i go to doctor they dont seem to listen to what i want to say, i find it hard to concentrate, always looking into space and sometimes i can be sitting doing nothing and not go to bed til 2am or later and still cant sleep and i have problems with getting up in mornings

bam

My condolences on your loss

Sam_Alumni

Hi @tina60 I am so sorry for your loss. 

Have you looked into grief councelling?  When my mum lost her husband, she attended a local group who dealt with losing a loved one to cancer, she had councelling and they also gave her massage and meditation healing. 

I just wonder if there is a similar group in your area who could help?  What area are you in?

Matilda

Cruse Bereavement Care have a helpline - 0808 808 1677.

tina60

I've been told about counselling but I'm scared to go as everything I mention or someone else mentions anything about hubby I just break down   I miss him so much my eyes are filling up just writing this 

Sam_Alumni

They will understand that @tina60 - I am so sorry you are so sad.  I know it must be really scary, but they won't judge you or think badly of you for crying.  My friend went to grief councelling and didnt speak for the the first two sessions.  You aren't alone in this. 

tina60

Ok thank you   I will try counselling  and I will let you know how I got on  

Sam_Alumni

I am sure there will be others on this community too who have dealt with grief and may be able to offer you their experiences.  Best of luck to you, keep talking and know you arent alone.