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Health Service Manager of Autism team - can I help?

I am a mother of an adult son with mild intellectual disabilities. I am a retired health service manager(Autism Team) and have years of experience both personal and professional, working with families and individuals with intellectual disabilities. Please ask me if you have any issues, I hope I can help.
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My brother (in his 30s) has a moderate learning disability and autism. He is usually great and we all love him to bits.
But sometimes it is as if he is determined to have a row with someone, he appears to be actively trying to find a reason - and even if you ignore/soothe/be nice he will find something!! E.g. I took him to buy some trainers and we drove past the station on the way back and he launched a tirade of verbal abuse at me because he thought I was picking him up from the station when I hadn't arranged it once, 18 months ago ☹️
It tends to be at the end of an enjoyable activity or a holiday so I am wondering if he subconsciously tries to ruin things so he is not upset they have ended? Is this an actual thing, and what do we do please? He has been like this since a child but it is scary now he is a 6ft bloke! x
Mary