How do you feel normal with people without aspergers?

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Charlottewaring9
Charlottewaring9 Online Community Member Posts: 18 Connected
edited February 2017 in Autism and neurodiversity
how do you feel normal with people without aspergers? i feel different 
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  • MrsLogic
    MrsLogic Online Community Member Posts: 41 Connected
    Hi @Charlottewaring9

    Welcome to the community!  I am a woman with a late diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome and yes, it can often feel like I'm on another planet, but the quirkiness often appeals to others I find.  I like geeking out.  Play to your strengths!
  • Charlottewaring9
    Charlottewaring9 Online Community Member Posts: 18 Connected
    im 19 how old are u and when did u get diagnosed
  • joannarashelle
    joannarashelle Online Community Member Posts: 135 Empowering
    Hi @Charlottewaring9 I would agree with @MrsLogic!

    I too got a late diagnosis and quite often feel like I'm from another planet compared to others. 

    But so many make a living from their 'quirks' and differences, most comedians get paid a lot of money for their unusual personalities and views on life. 

    Be be proud of being different though yes it can be really hard at times not feeling we 'fit in'

    If you google 'famous people with Aspergers' you'll be surprised.

    But you'll also see you're in good company! 


  • Charlottewaring9
    Charlottewaring9 Online Community Member Posts: 18 Connected
    i didnt get my diagnosi till i was 17 and im now 19 and i still getv no help whatsoever im in college and its my 3rd year at college and i have no help in college whatsoever and apperently its not a good enough excuse to get support in exams and in lessons :'(
  • joannarashelle
    joannarashelle Online Community Member Posts: 135 Empowering
    Good morning @Charlottewaring9,

    you need support and understanding! 
    Is there a tutor you trust and feel comfortable with you could chat to?
    Your college should have a counselling service or someone who provides support for students such as yourself, will your parents help guide you or maybe come with you to see your tutors?

    This is important you are entitled to help xx
  • Charlottewaring9
    Charlottewaring9 Online Community Member Posts: 18 Connected
    yeah but they all say the exact same thing i cant have a reader in my exams even though i can read its the understanding i dont understand the question. and they had to cut back on counselling so they have none and my mum has been at the college fighting for support at college  
  • joannarashelle
    joannarashelle Online Community Member Posts: 135 Empowering
    I know what you mean about not understanding the question @Charlottewaring9 it can be frustrating I feel for you as I struggle with simple instructions myself. 

    There will be an advisor on here who may be able to help you, I'm sorry I can't help other than offer support xx
  • Charlottewaring9
    Charlottewaring9 Online Community Member Posts: 18 Connected
    its fine its absolutly rubbish
  • joannarashelle
    joannarashelle Online Community Member Posts: 135 Empowering
    @Charlottewaring9 it can feel like that at times!

    Could you get your mum to have a look on this website for the right advisor who could help you?

    There will be one on here xx
  • Charlottewaring9
    Charlottewaring9 Online Community Member Posts: 18 Connected
    i am starting counselling next week
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  • joannarashelle
    joannarashelle Online Community Member Posts: 135 Empowering
    Counselling will help you @Charlottewaring9.

    It will be uncomfortable at times but it will help you.
    Remember their job is to help you. If there's anything you don't understand or feel uneasy about tell them.

     It can be hard but try xx
  • DannyBoy2541
    DannyBoy2541 Online Community Member Posts: 24 Connected
    Just be yourself try not to worry about what people think of you. @Charlottewaring9
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  • VioletFenn
    VioletFenn Online Community Member Posts: 124 Empowering
    Hi @Charlottewaring9 and welcome. Do you have a formal ASD diagnosis? If so, please do talk to your disability advisor at college (or ask your mum to), because there will be certain obligations your college legally has to meet with regards to provision of support for disabled students.

    From the Disability Rights section of the government's website:
    "All universities and higher education colleges should have a person in charge of disability issues that you can talk to about the support they offer."

    The forum's resident @EducationalPsychologist might also have relevant experience, so I've tagged her in this.

    Violet - Scope ASD advisor


  • Charlottewaring9
    Charlottewaring9 Online Community Member Posts: 18 Connected
    will the counselling help anyway
  • VioletFenn
    VioletFenn Online Community Member Posts: 124 Empowering
    Well I personally don't think it ever hurts to talk things through with an unbiased and supportive outsider - if nothing else it might help you sort things out in your own head a bit. It's definitely worth looking into college-based support as well though  :) 
  • Charlottewaring9
    Charlottewaring9 Online Community Member Posts: 18 Connected
    yeah i start it next tuesday every week for a dont know how long but i kinda scared a bit cus its art therepy i get nervous talking to new people
  • VioletFenn
    VioletFenn Online Community Member Posts: 124 Empowering
    I've never done art therapy myself @Charlottewaring9 but my Aspie son has at school (he's in Yr8) and he really enjoys it. The big advantage is that you're 'doing' things all the time, so it cuts out a lot of the pressure to interact with others. Good luck!
  • davidj49
    davidj49 Online Community Member Posts: 63 Contributor
    how do you feel normal with people without aspergers? i feel different 
    Hey..you are normal. Autism is not abnormal. Try to think positive about your Autism, and remember that the other person might have Aspergers themselves, how would you know that they are not Autistic? Just be yourself.