How do you feel normal with people without aspergers?

Charlottewaring9

how do you feel normal with people without aspergers? i feel different 

MrsLogic

Hi @Charlottewaring9

Welcome to the community!  I am a woman with a late diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome and yes, it can often feel like I'm on another planet, but the quirkiness often appeals to others I find.  I like geeking out.  Play to your strengths!

Charlottewaring9

im 19 how old are u and when did u get diagnosed

joannarashelle

Hi @Charlottewaring9 I would agree with @MrsLogic!

I too got a late diagnosis and quite often feel like I'm from another planet compared to others. 

But so many make a living from their 'quirks' and differences, most comedians get paid a lot of money for their unusual personalities and views on life. 

Be be proud of being different though yes it can be really hard at times not feeling we 'fit in'

If you google 'famous people with Aspergers' you'll be surprised.

But you'll also see you're in good company! 

Charlottewaring9

i didnt get my diagnosi till i was 17 and im now 19 and i still getv no help whatsoever im in college and its my 3rd year at college and i have no help in college whatsoever and apperently its not a good enough excuse to get support in exams and in lessons

joannarashelle

Good morning @Charlottewaring9,

you need support and understanding! 
Is there a tutor you trust and feel comfortable with you could chat to?
Your college should have a counselling service or someone who provides support for students such as yourself, will your parents help guide you or maybe come with you to see your tutors?

This is important you are entitled to help xx

Charlottewaring9

yeah but they all say the exact same thing i cant have a reader in my exams even though i can read its the understanding i dont understand the question. and they had to cut back on counselling so they have none and my mum has been at the college fighting for support at college  

joannarashelle

I know what you mean about not understanding the question @Charlottewaring9 it can be frustrating I feel for you as I struggle with simple instructions myself. 

There will be an advisor on here who may be able to help you, I'm sorry I can't help other than offer support xx

Charlottewaring9

its fine its absolutly rubbish

joannarashelle

@Charlottewaring9 it can feel like that at times!

Could you get your mum to have a look on this website for the right advisor who could help you?

There will be one on here xx

Charlottewaring9

i am starting counselling next week

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joannarashelle

Counselling will help you @Charlottewaring9.

It will be uncomfortable at times but it will help you.
Remember their job is to help you. If there's anything you don't understand or feel uneasy about tell them.

 It can be hard but try xx

DannyBoy2541

Just be yourself try not to worry about what people think of you. @Charlottewaring9

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VioletFenn

Hi @Charlottewaring9 and welcome. Do you have a formal ASD diagnosis? If so, please do talk to your disability advisor at college (or ask your mum to), because there will be certain obligations your college legally has to meet with regards to provision of support for disabled students.

From the Disability Rights section of the government's website:

"All universities and higher education colleges should have a person in charge of disability issues that you can talk to about the support they offer."

The forum's resident @EducationalPsychologist might also have relevant experience, so I've tagged her in this.

Violet - Scope ASD advisor

Charlottewaring9

will the counselling help anyway

VioletFenn

Well I personally don't think it ever hurts to talk things through with an unbiased and supportive outsider - if nothing else it might help you sort things out in your own head a bit. It's definitely worth looking into college-based support as well though   

Charlottewaring9

yeah i start it next tuesday every week for a dont know how long but i kinda scared a bit cus its art therepy i get nervous talking to new people

VioletFenn

I've never done art therapy myself @Charlottewaring9 but my Aspie son has at school (he's in Yr8) and he really enjoys it. The big advantage is that you're 'doing' things all the time, so it cuts out a lot of the pressure to interact with others. Good luck!

davidj49

Charlottewaring9 said:

how do you feel normal with people without aspergers? i feel different 

Hey..you are normal. Autism is not abnormal. Try to think positive about your Autism, and remember that the other person might have Aspergers themselves, how would you know that they are not Autistic? Just be yourself.