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Hi, my name is Jeanie1, 12 year old son needs assessment, but how?
My son is 12 years old and has had difficulties for a very long time, which was highlighted to be noticed when he was 7 and I had to change his schools as I received a call from his school 20 minutes after school finished asking if I knew where he was; the head teacher refused to discuss the situation with me at the time so I took him out of school. In his new school he would not interact with other children, refused to go to class, and even tried climbing over the school fence to get out. I would carry him kicking and screaming to the car and into school, he would be restrained and taken into the sensory room. At his previous school he would cry and not want to be in school or after school club if one particular boy was not going to be there. He refuses to wear denim, coats, or shorts at any time of year and says he is never hot or cold. He does not eat meat (though he will eat mince) says he does not like the texture. He has no friends says he doesn't like people and doesn't want friends. He has not been into a classroom for 4 years (except 1 occasion) and has not been into a school since March 2016. We have had CAMHS (who have just closed his case for the 3rd time in the same number of years), Step2, Education Psychologist, Children's Services; he just refuses to engage with anybody, wont attend appointments, stays in his bedroom mostly, except the odd good days where he comes down and chats, and on even rarer occasions he has been to the shops with me in the evening, went to the tennis courts a couple of times (though the last time threw his racket and kicked the ball as he couldn't serve) professionals has visited the house he stays in his room and wont talk to them. His personal hygiene was non existent but since researching management techniques I have found using PDA techniques has improved this. When I used to ask/tell/nag him to get a bath/brush his teeth he would go 2-3 weeks without a bath/shower etc, now though it still need improvement but he is now getting bathed/showered etc 3 times a week of his own volition. My issue is that as he will not engage with professionals 'them people' as he calls them, or attend appointments I cant get an assessment completed; although 2 years ago he had some form of assessment which stated he had severe anxiety, demonstrating traits of ASD, and having difficulty attending school and being in social situations. How do we get a full assessment if he wont attend appointments or engage? When I asked for work for him school said they will not accept this letter as it was done 2 years ago and aimed at his primary school where he was managing to attend at the time (although never in a classroom and not necessarily in the building)