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Supporting my son with Aspergers who is gay - any advice?
AbigailFrances73
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I'm hoping there are more parents out there in the same situation as me. Raising a son with Aspergers and supporting him mentally and emotionally with being gay. He feels so isolated and alone. Coming into his teenage years and being picked on and bullied, he is so vulnerable with his mental state about him as a person. I cry out for help as all I see is his talent and intellect. A support network is desperately needed for our children as these are their most important and vulnerable years.
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We have a parents section where I am sure you will find support.
Please let us know if you need any help
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How is your son socially? Would he cope with a youth group? My daughter is gay and she goes to a great LGBTQ+ youth group that has really helped her.
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I don't know of any groups off the top of my head, but I can ask around for you. Have you tried any local ASD support groups? They might well be helpful even if they're not specifically aimed at LGBT+ people. If you google 'ASD support' and the name of your town, something should come up.
I'll do some digging re more targets groups.
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How are you and your son getting on in general just now?
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Having Aspergers or recognising yourself as gay at a young age are two areas where young people feel out of place in most places where they find themselves so I can appreciate how your son is feeling.
It was not until my daughter was your son's age and started pursuing her passion at the time, indie music, that she really started to make friends. It was difficult for me at the time, wanting to support her but also being aware of the dangers she could face. She is 25 now, she has three trips planned abroad, including Norway in February with friends, some of whome she met when she was 12. She has never had a huge group of friends, but the ones she have are very understanding and amazingly loyal to her though non have autism a few are gay.
The LGBT community in general is very welcoming and protective over its young vulnerable members. My daughter gets he hair cut by a CIC gay company and it is one of the best hairdressing sallons I have seen. From the moment we arrived, she had explained to them she has aspergers when she made her first appointment, until we left they did everything to make her comfortable. The first time she went she had never had her hair cut, so it was something she was very anxious about. I mention it because it is also a safe area for young disabled people who can just pop in for cup of tea and chat and where they feel safe.
I am seeing a friend today who is involved in House Pride, an LGBT group who work in social housing and will ask if she has any ideas.
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As we are both London based and this area is better served some areas are less better served. If you are prepared to let me know your nearest town/city without giving too much of where you live she is happy to ask around.
In the meantime Stonewall have a search facility so you can see what is local to you. http://www.stonewall.org.uk/help-advice/whats-my-area youth groups are near the bottom of the first drop down list. Or you can check out https://www.stonewall.org.uk/category/youth-groups which lists youth groups around the UK, unfortunately does not seem to link directly to them so you may need to google any close to you
If you are in Scotland try https://www.lgbtyouth.org.uk/youth-groups
Hope this helps with you and your son.
As an individual I stood alone.
As a member of a group I did things.
As part of a community I helped to create change!
My son also has asd and recently told me me he like boys and girls I'm fully behind him as i love him so much but also not sure what to do u have contacted lbgt with groups on a sat but these are for children with no disabilities bot sure what to do now
Can I please clarify something in your post, are you saying the group/s you contacted would not accept your son, or that you are looking for a group specifically with children/young people with disabilities?
Have you contacted stonewall, link above, to see if they can help?
As an individual I stood alone.
As a member of a group I did things.
As part of a community I helped to create change!
A friend pointed out to me today that Stonewall has a site specifically for young LGBT https://www.youngstonewall.org.uk I have had a quick look and it is far more youth orientated than the adult site.
As an individual I stood alone.
As a member of a group I did things.
As part of a community I helped to create change!