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My success story out of bullying

mum2017mum2017 Member Posts: 3 Listener

J is 7 and he started a new school back in September 2016 (he was 6 then). He was really enjoying it until the last few months when I discovered that some older boys - I'm not sure exactly what age but they are either in year 4 or 5 so at least 8 years old, have been picking on him at lunch time. He also goes to after school club and one of the boys is apparently someone he knows from there.

 

What he has told me these boys were pushing him over, grabbing his face and hitting him on the head - generally being really rough with him and as they are so much older this is completely not appropriate and obviously goes beyond just messing about. He came home a few times with a big bruises which I can only imagine came from him falling after he had been pushed over.

 

As well as physically abusing him, J said that the boys had been saying horrible things to him - calling him a "F….. girl" and saying that he is "well s…."  - J doesn't speak like this so he is hearing it from somewhere.

 

I found it very hard to talk to him about this without putting words in his mouth as he was only 6, but this is what he had told me and I was absolutely heart broken for him.

 

I spoke to his teacher and told her all of the above and she said that she would investigate to try and find out what had been going on and also would make sure the dinner ladies are watching out for J. I also spoke to the after school club to try and find out if anything had been happening there and finding out what they would do, but J said that it was at school rather than there that he had the trouble. But nothing changed.

I booked him into start Jiu Jitsu, in the hope that it would give him the confidence. But nothing helped. I tried everything but it just seemed to get worse and the school was not doing enough, and these kids are too young to file a police report against. I really didn’t want to ruin their lives although they were ruining my lad’s own.

But then I found this while searching online for ways I could help my lad. It was something about a juicer and happy thoughts result is happy actions.  Lol…I felt desperate and was grabbing at anything that could give some relief and found this amazing thing. I was able to reduce the bullying by following the structure of the letters and guidelines and my lad loves the comic and inspirations that comes from them.

I just had to share! So if your child is being bullied and the school will do nothing, do what I did follow these links. And there is something for you too mum/dad/granny/grandpop. Look!

http://www.simonbenn.co.uk/stop-bullying

http://www.simonbenn.co.uk/resource-for-parents

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  • mum2017mum2017 Member Posts: 3 Listener
    DannyMoore,

    I already know where some of these children live,and I've addressed one mother - but she just acts like I'm overreacting since at that time there were no visible marks,  but my fear is ruining the lives of the children. Because they are all immature now and learning to be adults. It was so hard because the protective mother in me just wanted to snap the little troublemakers in two,but the adult in me had to be rational, and oh I'm still confused. Things have calmed down for this year, but I' keeping a close eye on things.

    I'm sorry to hear about your experience, I hope Jayri will turn this into something positive as he grows just as you did.
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  • MarkmywordsMarkmywords Member Posts: 421 Pioneering
    Schools are well known for refusing to accept that there is a bullying problem. They see it as a personal attack on their teaching abilities.

    It has been known for them to turn on the victims rather than admit it and confront the bullies and their families.

    No-one in the public sector admits to poor performance. They say "lessons have been learned" and nothing changes.
  • Pippa_AlumniPippa_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,851 Disability Gamechanger
    Thank you for sharing this with us @mum2017, it looks like a really interesting approach to bullying and I'm going to watch the videos later because I'm intrigued!

    Bullying is awful, I'm really glad that things have improved for your son now :)
  • mum2017mum2017 Member Posts: 3 Listener
    @Markmywords,

    They wanted to give me that excuse too. Even the mums that I approached of the boys bullying my son...

    @PippaScope

    It was my pleasure sharing. I searched for months trying to find ways to deal with the school, the emotional aspect with my son. I got him doing Jiu Jitsu just to help. It has been helping, I hope it will for you too..
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