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Has anyone been told they're not good enough to parent their children?
My children were removed from their home mid September.
I asked social services to do an assessment around 18 months ago, because I was worried that I wasn't meeting all their needs and that they needed support.
I have multiple (non epeleptic) seizures a day along with a functional neurological disorder and varying other issues that I won't bore you with.
My boys have varying degrees of autism.
Firstly the wrote saying we didn't meet the criteria for help. I wish I'd left it there, but I didn't I asked to see the criteria, and for them to reconsider.
That's when the witch hunt started. She (their social worker) has turned everyone against us.
Everyone who comes to our house is shocked it's so clean because in every report she depicts an episode of hoarders.
Exhausted my husband and I employed a childminder to move in and went on holiday re group and plan for the future. We also hoped that lowering my stress levels would improve my health.
How wrong could we be?
The very day we left she came to the house and bullied our childminder, she came again the next day with their father, who they have no contact with (and tried to persuade him to remove the children), and then the next day with the police who she got to remove them under a police protection order. Meanwhile we were stuck on holiday desperately trying to get home.
Since she's taken them she's put every possible obstacle in the way to me seeing the children, and so far I've only seen the youngest for 2 90 mins supervised contact sessions.
She had to give in with her order against my eldest as he's 17, but she still argued that against the judge, and my 17yr old is too upset to return home.
I've not seen my 15yr old since 17th September, and she won't let me speak to him, and has had his mobile phone removed.
I'm not sure if I can keep fighting this.
Halloween was awful without them, I'm not going to make through Christmas without them.
How am I supposed to carry on?
ive been trying everything to get them back, asking to be assessed, and go on parenting courses, anything to prove I'm a good mum, but she just says it's not a priority of hers.
Meanwhile I'm living in a huge empty house, with memory's all around me, that reminds me of what I lost. On top of that without them living here I can't afford to pay the bills and keep the house. It's a complete nightmare.
If anyone can offer advice I'd be so grateful. It feels like my life is over.