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Hi, my name is saramichelle!
My partner Dean has a terminal heart n lung disease and I am his full time carer,I have a couple of problems at the moment and don't know who to turn to and because I spend all my time with him (which I love doing and wouldn't want it any other way) but it means I don't have any friends at all to talk to n could do with making friends with people who understand mine and his situated.I've never thought there would be groups like this on here n it's fantastic to see that there is.I claim benefits for us but we have still being made to fill in n claim separate esa forms but I get carers allowance n he gets pip.They have stopped my esa though as I didn't receive a letter for a fit for work assessment so obviously not being a clairvoyant or a mind reader I didn't know about the appointment.Who would not attend an appointment knowing you would lose esa n leave a very ill man without food money? I would never do this to us.It says that a couple should not both have to claim esa,it breaks the DWY rules and I have been told by workers at the dwp themselves something wasn't right.Please does anyone on here know anything about this? I also made the decision to come off methadone after 30 years so could do without all this.I feel selfish though as I know there are people on here with a hell of a lot more problems I'm just worried I'm failing my partner when he is too ill to cope with worrying about where his next meal comes from