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Catman
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I'm really not sure where to go or what to do but I'm in a dire situation right now.
I met my partner in December 2015 and within two months, she and her two young children moved from Isle of Sheppey in Kent to my one bed flat in Bristol. All was okay for a while, cramped but we managed. I was still working at the time, as a skilled fitter for GKN Aerospace in Filton, Bristol. I was on a phased return to work after being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in October 2015. Sadly my condition worsened and I was released in August 2016. That was when things began to get bad. Rach my partner slowly became more dependent on Alcohol and began abusing me. Within months she was frequently being arrested for domestic violence against me and some real nasty assaults occured. Rach eventually lost her children. One of the things we had to do in order to get her kids back was to find suitable accomadation. As I was no longer employed, that would mean renting. So I put my flat up for sale and it was sold in August last year. I had hoped that Rach would stop drinking, I believed in her and loved her with all my heart. Sadly the abuse continued and she was arrested again and held on remand. She was released to her parent's address in Kent and after the sale of my home, I moved here. She continues to work with Probation and is presently sober. We sleep in the lounge on a blow up bed and it's extremely stressful here. My health has deteriorated, mostly the Fibromyalgia and Depression, I'm presently in a very dark place, miss Bristol, my church and support network badly. Rach's children are now in Canada with her ex and his family and she resents the times I called the Police on her so that makes me partly to blame, in her book.
I'm here with Casper my devoted cat and am desperate now to find a place, back west with any luck for Casper and me before the 25k I have left from the sale of my home is eaten away. Please can you help me in anyway.
Thank-you for taking the time to read this.
I met my partner in December 2015 and within two months, she and her two young children moved from Isle of Sheppey in Kent to my one bed flat in Bristol. All was okay for a while, cramped but we managed. I was still working at the time, as a skilled fitter for GKN Aerospace in Filton, Bristol. I was on a phased return to work after being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in October 2015. Sadly my condition worsened and I was released in August 2016. That was when things began to get bad. Rach my partner slowly became more dependent on Alcohol and began abusing me. Within months she was frequently being arrested for domestic violence against me and some real nasty assaults occured. Rach eventually lost her children. One of the things we had to do in order to get her kids back was to find suitable accomadation. As I was no longer employed, that would mean renting. So I put my flat up for sale and it was sold in August last year. I had hoped that Rach would stop drinking, I believed in her and loved her with all my heart. Sadly the abuse continued and she was arrested again and held on remand. She was released to her parent's address in Kent and after the sale of my home, I moved here. She continues to work with Probation and is presently sober. We sleep in the lounge on a blow up bed and it's extremely stressful here. My health has deteriorated, mostly the Fibromyalgia and Depression, I'm presently in a very dark place, miss Bristol, my church and support network badly. Rach's children are now in Canada with her ex and his family and she resents the times I called the Police on her so that makes me partly to blame, in her book.
I'm here with Casper my devoted cat and am desperate now to find a place, back west with any luck for Casper and me before the 25k I have left from the sale of my home is eaten away. Please can you help me in anyway.
Thank-you for taking the time to read this.
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My thoughts and prayers have been with you since I first read your story
I sounds like a move back west is what you need
Would your church be able to put you in touch with suitable property agencies ?
CR
Would it be worth expending some of that 25k in renting for a few months whilst you sort yourself out? And please, please make a clean break so that you can't even be harassed by phone. I know what that is like.
Sorry I can't offer any better wisdom,
Warmest best wishes to you,
Richard
As your situation is quite complex, I wonder if you would be comfortable calling the Scope helpline? You can call them at 0800 800 3333 or find other methods of contact here. They may be best placed to offer advice and point you in the right direction, although please do keep us updated and we'll offer guidance where we can.
In the meantime, it might also be worth having a look at the online benefits calculator to see if there are any benefits you may be able to claim to increase your income. I really hope you manage to get things sorted and find a way to move forwards.
You need to cut yourself off from her
Tjank god her kids are with their dad.
Have talk with CAB see if they can get your money sorted. There should be a benefit you can claim
Good luck
Hi @Catman
Here is a link to an organisation which may be able to advise you:
http://www.mankind.org.uk/
Best Wishes
Jean
https://community.scope.org.uk/categories/ask-an-occupational-therapist
Jean Merrilees BSc MRCOT
You can read more of my posts at: https://community.scope.org.uk/categories/ask-an-occupational-therapist
I do send my warmest wishes to you
@jose2