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Why do other People think they have a right to Judge.
Colourfull
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Hi to all,
I was just reading an article on line about a Mum who parked in a disabled bay while going shopping was spoken to in not a very nice way by people crossing a car park as she had a 2 year old boy and 5 year old girl who has what I would call in visible illness ie you cannot tell the child/or an adult for that matter has disabilitys because they are not in a wheelchair can walk same as I can ect then people have a go at them for parking in a disabled parking bay they have every right too do that.
People are too harsh to Judge other people I am partially sighted but you cannot tell until I walk into someone and don't like crowds of people as the above happens.
It's the same as me having IBS you cannot tell people have it but it's very annoying when you have to plan when you can go out and make sure you've had medication before you go out.
And as for what you accomplish in life and how you go about it it's Well you don't look disabled"""""".
I would have much rather not had many of the Problems I've had in my life having to overcome so much stigma I am only how I am through determination to get over the Problems I face every day which can be differant day to day.
Life is hard for lots of people I know but it's not made any better by people who are judgemental when they do not know people's conditions.
People should be more accepting of other People.
The above is so annoying especially when adults don't know what someone else has been through to get to where they are today.
What are Peoples thoughts about the Above
Thankyou for Reading.
Colourfull.
I was just reading an article on line about a Mum who parked in a disabled bay while going shopping was spoken to in not a very nice way by people crossing a car park as she had a 2 year old boy and 5 year old girl who has what I would call in visible illness ie you cannot tell the child/or an adult for that matter has disabilitys because they are not in a wheelchair can walk same as I can ect then people have a go at them for parking in a disabled parking bay they have every right too do that.
People are too harsh to Judge other people I am partially sighted but you cannot tell until I walk into someone and don't like crowds of people as the above happens.
It's the same as me having IBS you cannot tell people have it but it's very annoying when you have to plan when you can go out and make sure you've had medication before you go out.
And as for what you accomplish in life and how you go about it it's Well you don't look disabled"""""".
I would have much rather not had many of the Problems I've had in my life having to overcome so much stigma I am only how I am through determination to get over the Problems I face every day which can be differant day to day.
Life is hard for lots of people I know but it's not made any better by people who are judgemental when they do not know people's conditions.
People should be more accepting of other People.
The above is so annoying especially when adults don't know what someone else has been through to get to where they are today.
What are Peoples thoughts about the Above
Thankyou for Reading.
Colourfull.
Replies
The more these things are out in the open instead of being hidden behind closed doors the more people will realise and hopefully think first before speaking.
Dont park in a disabled bay when you clearly didnt need to.
That mom should parked in a mom & baby bay.
Disabled bays are for disabled people ie: cant walk and need to be close to shop etc.
If gou dont have problems walking keep out of disabled bays.
There are only a few (2 in our local shop) the scurity guards move people out of tbese if they have NO PROBLEM WALKING.
if every selfish person is going to dump themselves in DISABLED parking bays we are going to need many many more bays so DISABLED people WHO HAVE PROBLEMS WALKING CAN PARK THEIR CAR.
If you dont have problems walking keep out of disabled parking bays SO DISABLED PEOPLE CAN PARK.
Colourfull.
We of all people should not judge others
I don't drive, but if I did I'd have a blue badge, and I'd park in disabled bays.
One reason is that I have severe anxiety, and walking across a large open space makes it worse.
Second, that anxiety kicks in badly when there are a lot of people around. Knowing that my safe, quiet car is really close to the door would help me to deal long enough to get whatever I'm doing done. Sometimes, at least.
Third, when I can go to the shop (not often, admittedly), I usually go late at night, when there are few people there. Having been mugged in a parking lot, I'd need to park as close to the doors/lights as possible, or I wouldn't be able to get to get out of my car.
Fourth, I have chronic lower back pain, with sciatica. I hide the pain pretty well, so you probably wouldn't be able to tell, but it hurts like a motherf... Every meter I don't have to walk is a pain and fatigue saving for me.
Fifth, as part of my chronic pain, I get acute back spasms. The pain is 7/10 - 9.5/10, they limit my mobility: sometimes I walk slowly, bent over, as little as possible, and sometimes I can't move without leaning heavily on someone. Very occasionally, I literally collapse to the ground and can't get up. They can happen anywhere from 0-6? times a week, and can last between a few minutes and 9 days (usually 1-2 days). They're usually triggered by standing or sitting for too long, walking too far, bending, or kneeling, but sometimes they seem to happen for no reason at all. I wouldn't leave the house if I were having one (I couldn't), and I don't go out much anyway, but walking through a shop is quite likely to set one off. I might look OK walking into the shop, but there's a good chance that I won't be when I'm coming out again. I'd be able to lower the back of the seat and lie down (the best position) until it passed, until meds kicked in, until a friend/housemate could come and drive me home, or until a taxi could come and get me.
You never know what someone else is struggling with. Whenever I start to judge, I remind myself of that.
And if you had to drive round and round a cae park because people who CAN WALK have parked in dissabled bays you would be the 1st to moan.
You think it will never happen to you with your "alright jack approch" to life BUT you could be in a car accident and loose your legs. Or get diabetus and have your legs amputated hey then youd have all "the fun" disabled people have trying to find a disabled bays that doesnt have a person WHO CAN WALK IN IT
Its just not me some people judge, my deaf daughter too gets humiliated, judged and insulted. When she was a little girl, a woman admired her. Because she received no response from my three year old little girl, the woman said, “ How rude.., she is a very rude child”. If I could turn the click back, I would tell her how I felt about her ignorant remark. Her words were like sharp knives going through my heart. So much so, although my daughter is an adult, I still feel angry about it. This was when I started writing down my thoughts in a poem in order to console myself. This is why i understand the frustration people who comment on this website feel. No one has the right to judge anyone, but the human nature being what it is, some people can’t help it. Like someone stated here, most disabilities are INVISIBLE. Deafness is one of them. The other is the discomfort and the pain a disabled person endure. No one else can really feels the degree of the pain of another, because it is invisible. You cannot describe it to another.
I am a very healthy looking 26 yr old, only thing is is that I have Aspergers - a form of Autism. I had a late diagnosis last year and every since I've been telling people (work colleagues, friends etc) I get the 'oh you don't look Autistic' 'You musn't have it that bad surely, you seem fine to me' . . . so people do judge when it's not just physical.
I also suffer with Anxiety due to my very late diagnosis and I tried to apply for a blue badge as I myself find it so difficult to not only park in a car park but the whole thought process and especially if it is a busy place.
My step dad suffers with Fibro and MS and he has a blue badge, someone judged him when getting out of his vehicle saying he merely only had a blue badge because he was 'fat' - no one stood up for him.
People are too quick to judge, being disabled is no longer just someone in a wheelchair or someone who can't walk, it's more than that.
Sasha/x
Its you thats judging everyone. Your judging if a disabled person has a right to park in a disabled space.
If you have judged that disabled person doesnt need that space you dump yourself in it. Prevnting a disabled person from parking.
You really need to stop judging other people.
Leave disabled parking bays for disabled people
Those with invisible problems who still qualify for the blue badge.
It's not about whose problem is worse, it sadly always appears to be about what we can see.
Our perception of disabled is a wheelchair.
I qualify for a blue badge. I have hidden issues and that type of comment coming from someone else with issues, is worse than someone who hasn't.
Please read the criteria for a blue badge, please read the mobility section for pip.
Do NOT assume you are the only person in the world who struggles.
'In 2013 when the government began moving people from DLA to the new Personal Independence Payment (PIP). The assessment for the mobility component of PIP measures people on two criteria. One tests their ability in “moving around”, and the other measures their understanding of “planning and following a journey”. In order to get an award of the mobility component of PIP you need to score 8 points for the standard rate and 12 points for the enhanced rate.
To qualify for the Motability Scheme, you would need to be in receipt of PIP enhanced rate mobility. However, Blue Badge qualification is no longer purely on qualifying for the Enhanced Rate Mobility Component of PIP and is also different depending on where you live'
It went on to say that some who did qualify on DLA do not now because of that.
Personally I don't get the need to have a go at those who have a badge. From where I am sat, I could say just think yourself lucky you have a car!!! Some of us can't drive and won't ever be able to.
It is down to the individual council to accept or decline a badge. I took that information directly from motability.
Have you applied for a badge?
That used to be accepted here. Not sure if that's the case for us now.
It might even be council discretion?
Good to know
thanks
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